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 Ghostwriter
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 Ex gf started shooting up 
#15642548 - 01/09/12 11:32 PM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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I feel terrible and don't know what to do.
I don't even hang out with this girl anymore but we text here and there.
She proceeded to tell me that she started "shooting up" because her life is boring and she wants to party. I can't get it through to her that that is not the answer.
I don't know who she hangs around with and i don't know much about her life anymore but that is terrible to hear about anybody you knew.
I feel like that it's somewhat my fault. I gave her that first hit of weed, I gave her her first hit of acid, I gave her her first xanax bar, I gave her her first line of coke....ect.
I can't imagine that someone would shoot up a 17 year old girl for her first time because she wanted to party. Thats FUCKED UP.
I am trying to get ahold of her brother to let him know but I KNOW she will just lie to him about everything and bitch me out when she finds out. But I am having a hard time getting ahold of him anyway 
She told me she shoots coke and has mentioned things about heroin.
tl;dr : my ex gf started shooting up and i feel terrible even though i dont even like her one bit anymore and don't talk to her much at all or even hang out with her.
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 Sham87
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Re: Ex gf started shooting up [Re: Ghostwriter]
#15642554 - 01/09/12 11:34 PM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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Fuck man. Sorry to hear.
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Re: Ex gf started shooting up [Re: Sham87]
#15642657 - 01/09/12 11:50 PM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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You can try talking to her again, but if she won't listen she won't listen and she isn't going to start listening until she gets in deep. Even then, she's not guaranteed to ever wake up before the habit takes her.
I wish you the best.
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Ghostwriter
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Re: Ex gf started shooting up [Re: Joolz]
#15642685 - 01/09/12 11:54 PM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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O believe me i have said EVERYTHING TO HER, she does not care one bit and the only thing i am left to do is contact her older brother, but i have NO CLUE where to start..
so i got a few friends trying to get to the bottom of that phone number for me
thats the least i could do
but all this has done is given me more inspiration and motivation than ever.
I have been clean from weed for a month now and i dont drink or do any drugs besides trip here and there.
I am about to go to bootcamp and this just inspires me to be that much better than her i guess
its still sad as fuck and i feel terrible and will never forget it if she ends up ODing or killing herself 
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Re: Ex gf started shooting up [Re: Joolz]
#15642689 - 01/09/12 11:55 PM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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> I feel terrible and don't know what to do.
Protect yourself. There is nothing you can do to help her. If she gets hooked, she will take advantage of your good will to feed her addiction. She might beat it, but odds are not in her favor, especially given the reasons she is starting to experiment (bored, wanting to party).
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Re: Ex gf started shooting up *DELETED* [Re: Seuss]
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Re: Ex gf started shooting up [Re: Mafeki]
#15642881 - 01/10/12 12:33 AM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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At the time I was balls deep into drug bingies of all sorts and thats when i met her but she was never crazy about drugs like me and i straightened up but we ended up breaking up anyway
we talk every once and a while but and i wouldnt want to be in a relationship with her or anything but i feel to her as a friend
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Re: Ex gf started shooting up [Re: Ghostwriter]
#15643166 - 01/10/12 01:35 AM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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My ex was always into harder drugs. Shed snort anything you gave her. It always kinda put me off. It slowly faded out, and I realized later it was mostly to keep me around. After we split last year, I hear from just about everybody that shes way drugged out.
Sink or swim
Shes the only person who can help herself. And like Suess said...keep your wits about you. She will take down everybody with her.
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Umeltin
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shitty situation bro. if she's 17 how old are you anyways?
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Re: Ex gf started shooting up [Re: Umeltin]
#15643208 - 01/10/12 01:51 AM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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I am 20 now
back when i was doing alot of experimenting i was doing any drugs from 14ish 15-about half a year ago
i still trip and would smoke weed but i have to drop
i would NEVER shoot anything up and dont do any drugs or drink besides an occational trip
Im going to bootcamp soon and plan to live sober for a while
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Umeltin
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Re: Ex gf started shooting up [Re: Ghostwriter] 1
#15643221 - 01/10/12 01:55 AM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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i wish my ex would start shootin up.lol. i hate that bitch.
anyways, i'd just keep doing what you're doing. but she wont quit unless she really wants to.
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Ghostwriter
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Re: Ex gf started shooting up [Re: Umeltin]
#15643226 - 01/10/12 01:55 AM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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Yeah, im all good.
Just hate thinking about it and can't help it sometimes 
i think i just needed to get it off my chest
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Re: Ex gf started shooting up [Re: Ghostwriter]
#15643790 - 01/10/12 06:33 AM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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Its good that you think about your part in all this, not in terms of blame, people get so hung up on that, that they miss the point....learning.
People with problems' (or habit in this instance) turning points usually only come at a time when they realise that they are completely alone and have no other options.
You need to look after you.
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Re: Ex gf started shooting up [Re: somaholiday]
#15644225 - 01/10/12 11:26 AM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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You can't do anything. Fuck her, shes a loser. Junkies can only help themselves and truly are not worth the effort to try and save.
Having dated an ex-junkie and losing 5 or 6 friends to addiction, I totally have tried to be there for them, help them with detox, and support them only when they're actually doing better. After 4 years of listening to their junkie problems, I no longer give a fuck about anyone who chooses that lifestyle.
Some people are better off fucked. Helping them gets you no where and is an epic waste of energy. Plus it puts on much unneeded stress on you. Be happy she's an ex.
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Re: Ex gf started shooting up [Re: TTT]
#15644245 - 01/10/12 11:36 AM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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Move on. Dont get your self messed up in that shit. Itll hurt less now to cut ties then trying to "help" someone banging a vein.
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Re: Ex gf started shooting up [Re: Ghostwriter]
#15645851 - 01/10/12 06:01 PM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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IMO...
First of all, not your fault. You didn't give her the heroin, and with the weed, coke, etc. even though you gave it to her, she was the one that made the decision to do it.
I say you just leave her alone. Not your girlfriend, but an ex and it sounds like not even a particularly close friend. Not your problem. She's obviously not looking for help either. There isn't anything you could do anyway. This is the kind of mistake that a person can only learn on their own. If you keep bugging her, either you are just going to annoy her, or she is going to start taking advantage of your misguided kindness. I can guarantee she isn't going to stop getting high just because you tell her its not the answer.
Also, don't tell her brother. It sounds like its really none of your business. She told you she shoots up for whatever reason, you don't need to go telling other people or trying to fix her.
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Re: Ex gf started shooting up [Re: psilyguy]
#15645882 - 01/10/12 06:08 PM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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this is a shitty situation but you could always throw a bag of dope at her if your lonely, which eventually she will suggest, believe me..i've been there, and the sooner your get your morals or "feelings" out of the way you'll realize that is all shes good for. once a spike always a spike i say..  plus who knows her current methods of fixing that itch..
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Re: Ex gf started shooting up [Re: K Y L E] 1
#15645971 - 01/10/12 06:30 PM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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got a text today that said "i almost oded yesterday"
I told her off and made it clear that i didnt want anything to do with her anymore and told her to go shoot some more dope and blah blah blah
I made it clear to her that I am trying to IMPROVE my life not fuck it up, so whatever I just had to get it off my chest i think.
I'm fine now, i told her to block my number and that i would read about her OD in the newspaper.
I know it was kinda harsh but not my problem
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Re: Ex gf started shooting up [Re: Ghostwriter]
#15647217 - 01/10/12 11:01 PM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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You have much worse things to worry about bro. She's gonna either junkie her life away or figure it out and quit.
You need to worry about going into bootcamp. Its gonna be tough being America's bulldog.
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Re: Ex gf started shooting up [Re: Joolz]
#15647250 - 01/10/12 11:07 PM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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Quote:
Joolz said:
You have much worse things to worry about bro. She's gonna either junkie her life away or figure it out and quit.
You need to worry about going into bootcamp. Its gonna be tough being America's bulldog.
Thanks man, and oh I know. I feel like no matter what I do I wont be prepared enough for it..
Most people give you the "why the fuck would you join the military" talk, so i respect that you didnt take it that far lol
It's a personal choice and if you dont like it, dont join haha
Im doing much better than i was though, it was just kind of a shock to hear and then i started thinking to much..
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