Ex gf started shooting up - Sexuality and Relationships

Home | Community | Message Board

You are not signed in.
New Account

Forum Index Search Posts Best Posts Active Topics Galleries FAQ User List Calendar Store Random Growery

Community >> Sexuality and Relationships

Welcome to the Shroomery Message Board! You are experiencing a small sample of what the site has to offer. Please or register to post messages and view our exclusive members-only content. You'll gain access to additional forums, file attachments, board customizations, encrypted private messages, and much more!

Jump to first unread post.

Pages: 1 | 2 [ show all ]

Ghostwriter

Registered: 06/18/10
Posts: 4,825
Loc: USA

Ex gf started shooting up

#15642548 - 01/09/12 11:32 PM (1 year, 4 months ago)

I feel terrible and don't know what to do.

I don't even hang out with this girl anymore but we text here and there.

She proceeded to tell me that she started "shooting up" because her life is boring and she wants to party. I can't get it through to her that that is not the answer.

I don't know who she hangs around with and i don't know much about her life anymore but that is terrible to hear about anybody you knew.

I feel like that it's somewhat my fault. I gave her that first hit of weed, I gave her her first hit of acid, I gave her her first xanax bar, I gave her her first line of coke....ect.

I can't imagine that someone would shoot up a 17 year old girl for her first time because she wanted to party. Thats FUCKED UP.

I am trying to get ahold of her brother to let him know but I KNOW she will just lie to him about everything and bitch me out when she finds out. But I am having a hard time getting ahold of him anyway :shrug:

She told me she shoots coke and has mentioned things about heroin.

tl;dr : my ex gf started shooting up and i feel terrible even though i dont even like her one bit anymore and don't talk to her much at all or even hang out with her.

Post Extras:

Sham87
Roll Away The Dew

Registered: 05/16/11
Posts: 2,934
Loc: Pacific Coast
Last seen: 11 hours, 51 minutes

Re: Ex gf started shooting up

[Re: Ghostwriter]
#15642554 - 01/09/12 11:34 PM (1 year, 4 months ago)

Fuck man. Sorry to hear.

--------------------
Now I Am Lost. :mushroom2:

Post Extras:

Joolz

Registered: 09/19/10
Posts: 3,614
Last seen: 6 months, 16 days

Re: Ex gf started shooting up

[Re: Sham87]
#15642657 - 01/09/12 11:50 PM (1 year, 4 months ago)

You can try talking to her again, but if she won't listen she won't listen and she isn't going to start listening until she gets in deep. Even then, she's not guaranteed to ever wake up before the habit takes her.

I wish you the best.

--------------------
Prohibition didn't work for God; Eve ate the fruit.

Post Extras:

Ghostwriter

Registered: 06/18/10
Posts: 4,825
Loc: USA

Re: Ex gf started shooting up

[Re: Joolz]
#15642685 - 01/09/12 11:54 PM (1 year, 4 months ago)

O believe me i have said EVERYTHING TO HER, she does not care one bit and the only thing i am left to do is contact her older brother, but i have NO CLUE where to start..

so i got a few friends trying to get to the bottom of that phone number for me :shrug:

thats the least i could do

but all this has done is given me more inspiration and motivation than ever.

I have been clean from weed for a month now and i dont drink or do any drugs besides trip here and there.

I am about to go to bootcamp and this just inspires me to be that much better than her i guess

its still sad as fuck and i feel terrible and will never forget it if she ends up ODing or killing herself :frown:

Post Extras:

Seuss
Error: divide byzero

Registered: 04/27/01
Posts: 23,394
Loc: Caribbean
Last seen: 3 months, 6 days

Re: Ex gf started shooting up

[Re: Joolz]
#15642689 - 01/09/12 11:55 PM (1 year, 4 months ago)

> I feel terrible and don't know what to do.

Protect yourself. There is nothing you can do to help her. If she gets hooked, she will take advantage of your good will to feed her addiction. She might beat it, but odds are not in her favor, especially given the reasons she is starting to experiment (bored, wanting to party).

--------------------
Just another spore in the wind.

Post Extras:

Mafeki
Umadbro

Registered: 04/24/11
Posts: 3,884
Loc: Jamaica

Re: Ex gf started shooting up *DELETED*

[Re: Seuss]
#15642849 - 01/10/12 12:28 AM (1 year, 4 months ago)

Post deleted by Mafeki

Reason for deletion: No-thanks

--------------------

Post Extras:

Ghostwriter

Registered: 06/18/10
Posts: 4,825
Loc: USA

Re: Ex gf started shooting up

[Re: Mafeki]
#15642881 - 01/10/12 12:33 AM (1 year, 4 months ago)

At the time I was balls deep into drug bingies of all sorts and thats when i met her but she was never crazy about drugs like me and i straightened up but we ended up breaking up anyway

we talk every once and a while but and i wouldnt want to be in a relationship with her or anything but i feel to her as a friend

Post Extras:

I_was_the_walrus
eggshells

Registered: 05/01/02
Posts: 8,848
Loc: next door

Re: Ex gf started shooting up

[Re: Ghostwriter]
#15643166 - 01/10/12 01:35 AM (1 year, 4 months ago)

My ex was always into harder drugs. Shed snort anything you gave her. It always kinda put me off. It slowly faded out, and I realized later it was mostly to keep me around. After we split last year, I hear from just about everybody that shes way drugged out.

Sink or swim :shrug:

Shes the only person who can help herself. And like Suess said...keep your wits about you. She will take down everybody with her.

--------------------

Post Extras:

Umeltin
Gregory

Registered: 10/05/11
Posts: 1,530

Re: Ex gf started shooting up

[Re: I_was_the_walrus]
#15643194 - 01/10/12 01:44 AM (1 year, 4 months ago)

shitty situation bro. if she's 17 how old are you anyways?

Post Extras:

Ghostwriter

Registered: 06/18/10
Posts: 4,825
Loc: USA

Re: Ex gf started shooting up

[Re: Umeltin]
#15643208 - 01/10/12 01:51 AM (1 year, 4 months ago)

I am 20 now

back when i was doing alot of experimenting i was doing any drugs from 14ish 15-about half a year ago

i still trip and would smoke weed but i have to drop :shrug:

i would NEVER shoot anything up and dont do any drugs or drink besides an occational trip

Im going to bootcamp soon and plan to live sober for a while

Post Extras:

Umeltin
Gregory

Registered: 10/05/11
Posts: 1,530

Re: Ex gf started shooting up

[Re: Ghostwriter]

1
#15643221 - 01/10/12 01:55 AM (1 year, 4 months ago)

i wish my ex would start shootin up.lol. i hate that bitch.

anyways, i'd just keep doing what you're doing. but she wont quit unless she really wants to.

Post Extras:

Ghostwriter

Registered: 06/18/10
Posts: 4,825
Loc: USA

Re: Ex gf started shooting up

[Re: Umeltin]
#15643226 - 01/10/12 01:55 AM (1 year, 4 months ago)

Yeah, im all good.

Just hate thinking about it and can't help it sometimes :facepalm:

i think i just needed to get it off my chest :shrug:

Post Extras:

somaholiday
Stranger

Registered: 01/12/11
Posts: 444
Last seen: 1 month, 7 hours

Re: Ex gf started shooting up

[Re: Ghostwriter]
#15643790 - 01/10/12 06:33 AM (1 year, 4 months ago)

Its good that you think about your part in all this, not in terms of blame, people get so hung up on that, that they miss the point....learning.

People with problems' (or habit in this instance) turning points usually only come at a time when they realise that they are completely alone and have no other options.

You need to look after you.

--------------------
The man of science is a poor philosopher --- Albert Einstein

Post Extras:

TTT
Cultivate the inside

Registered: 08/07/06
Posts: 4,340

Re: Ex gf started shooting up

[Re: somaholiday]
#15644225 - 01/10/12 11:26 AM (1 year, 4 months ago)

You can't do anything. Fuck her, shes a loser. Junkies can only help themselves and truly are not worth the effort to try and save.

Having dated an ex-junkie and losing 5 or 6 friends to addiction, I totally have tried to be there for them, help them with detox, and support them only when they're actually doing better. After 4 years of listening to their junkie problems, I no longer give a fuck about anyone who chooses that lifestyle.

Some people are better off fucked. Helping them gets you no where and is an epic waste of energy. Plus it puts on much unneeded stress on you. Be happy she's an ex.

Post Extras:

Dirty White Boy
Jigglin'

Registered: 09/07/11
Posts: 70
Last seen: 1 year, 3 months

Re: Ex gf started shooting up

[Re: TTT]
#15644245 - 01/10/12 11:36 AM (1 year, 4 months ago)

Move on. Dont get your self messed up in that shit. Itll hurt less now to cut ties then trying to "help" someone banging a vein.

Post Extras:

psilyguy

Registered: 12/03/08
Posts: 3,305
Last seen: 1 year, 4 months

Re: Ex gf started shooting up

[Re: Ghostwriter]
#15645851 - 01/10/12 06:01 PM (1 year, 4 months ago)

IMO...

First of all, not your fault. You didn't give her the heroin, and with the weed, coke, etc. even though you gave it to her, she was the one that made the decision to do it.

I say you just leave her alone. Not your girlfriend, but an ex and it sounds like not even a particularly close friend. Not your problem. She's obviously not looking for help either. There isn't anything you could do anyway. This is the kind of mistake that a person can only learn on their own. If you keep bugging her, either you are just going to annoy her, or she is going to start taking advantage of your misguided kindness. I can guarantee she isn't going to stop getting high just because you tell her its not the answer.

Also, don't tell her brother. It sounds like its really none of your business. She told you she shoots up for whatever reason, you don't need to go telling other people or trying to fix her.

Post Extras:

K Y L E
RIP DS DL FB GM

Registered: 01/05/12
Posts: 147
Loc: Snowy mountain top

Last seen: 1 year, 2 months

Re: Ex gf started shooting up

[Re: psilyguy]
#15645882 - 01/10/12 06:08 PM (1 year, 4 months ago)

this is a shitty situation but you could always throw a bag of dope at her if your lonely, which eventually she will suggest, believe me..i've been there, and the sooner your get your morals or "feelings" out of the way you'll realize that is all shes good for. once a spike always a spike i say.. :shrug2:

plus who knows her current methods of fixing that itch..

--------------------

Post Extras:

Ghostwriter

Registered: 06/18/10
Posts: 4,825
Loc: USA

Re: Ex gf started shooting up

[Re: K Y L E]

1
#15645971 - 01/10/12 06:30 PM (1 year, 4 months ago)

got a text today that said "i almost oded yesterday"

:facepalm:

I told her off and made it clear that i didnt want anything to do with her anymore and told her to go shoot some more dope and blah blah blah

I made it clear to her that I am trying to IMPROVE my life not fuck it up, so whatever I just had to get it off my chest i think.

I'm fine now, i told her to block my number and that i would read about her OD in the newspaper.

I know it was kinda harsh but :shrug:

not my problem

:peace:

Post Extras:

Joolz

Registered: 09/19/10
Posts: 3,614
Last seen: 6 months, 16 days

Re: Ex gf started shooting up

[Re: Ghostwriter]
#15647217 - 01/10/12 11:01 PM (1 year, 4 months ago)

You have much worse things to worry about bro. She's gonna either junkie her life away or figure it out and quit.

You need to worry about going into bootcamp. Its gonna be tough being America's bulldog.

--------------------
Prohibition didn't work for God; Eve ate the fruit.

Post Extras:

Ghostwriter

Registered: 06/18/10
Posts: 4,825
Loc: USA

Re: Ex gf started shooting up

[Re: Joolz]
#15647250 - 01/10/12 11:07 PM (1 year, 4 months ago)

Quote:

Joolz said:
You have much worse things to worry about bro. She's gonna either junkie her life away or figure it out and quit.

You need to worry about going into bootcamp. Its gonna be tough being America's bulldog.

Thanks man, and oh I know. I feel like no matter what I do I wont be prepared enough for it..

Most people give you the "why the fuck would you join the military" talk, so i respect that you didnt take it that far lol

It's a personal choice and if you dont like it, dont join :shrug:

haha

Im doing much better than i was though, it was just kind of a shock to hear and then i started thinking to much..

Post Extras:

Joolz

Registered: 09/19/10
Posts: 3,614
Last seen: 6 months, 16 days

Re: Ex gf started shooting up

[Re: Ghostwriter]
#15647262 - 01/10/12 11:09 PM (1 year, 4 months ago)

Quote:

mamdbdylan said:
Quote:

Joolz said:
You have much worse things to worry about bro. She's gonna either junkie her life away or figure it out and quit.

You need to worry about going into bootcamp. Its gonna be tough being America's bulldog.

Thanks man, and oh I know. I feel like no matter what I do I wont be prepared enough for it..

Most people give you the "why the fuck would you join the military" talk, so i respect that you didnt take it that far lol

It's a personal choice and if you dont like it, dont join haha

Im doing much better than i was though, it was just kind of a shock to hear and then i started thinking to much..

Hahaha, America is a pretty awesome place to live. We just need to get rid of these dickwads in government.

I had my job, ship out date, and even my PFC ranking all setup for the Marines. I ditched it to do drugs and work in the hotel industry.

I wish you luck.

--------------------
Prohibition didn't work for God; Eve ate the fruit.

Post Extras:

Ghostwriter

Registered: 06/18/10
Posts: 4,825
Loc: USA

Re: Ex gf started shooting up

[Re: Joolz]
#15647281 - 01/10/12 11:13 PM (1 year, 4 months ago)

Thanks!

I was going for Marines first, but I have too many tattoos and they wouldn't let me in so Army was my next choice.

I haven't picked my MOS yet or even went to MEPS, I need to drop clean first. I've been over a month sober of weed and I STILL drop dirty. lol

i drink water all day and run but i guess i smoked a shit ton of weed :shrug:

Post Extras:

greencavefloat
The Friend

Registered: 06/24/09
Posts: 148
Loc: Western Australia

Last seen: 13 days, 13 hours

Re: Ex gf started shooting up

[Re: Ghostwriter]

1
#15647321 - 01/10/12 11:24 PM (1 year, 4 months ago)

They only successful method i've seen is in the movie Trainspotting. It will involve kidnapping her and lockering her up with only a bucket to shit in. A baby might crawl across the roof

Post Extras:

sofa_king_happy
Stranger

Registered: 01/30/10
Posts: 224
Last seen: 30 days, 15 hours

Re: Ex gf started shooting up

[Re: Ghostwriter]
#15647486 - 01/11/12 12:02 AM (1 year, 4 months ago)

Quote:

mamdbdylan said:
got a text today that said "i almost oded yesterday"

I told her off and made it clear that i didnt want anything to do with her anymore and told her to go shoot some more dope and blah blah blah

I made it clear to her that I am trying to IMPROVE my life not fuck it up, so whatever I just had to get it off my chest i think.

I'm fine now, i told her to block my number and that i would read about her OD in the newspaper.

I know it was kinda harsh but not my problem

She's a minor, you really shouldn't text her to "go shoot more dope" else we'll read about your lawsuit in the newspaper :peace:

Post Extras:

Ghostwriter

Registered: 06/18/10
Posts: 4,825
Loc: USA

Re: Ex gf started shooting up

[Re: sofa_king_happy]
#15647497 - 01/11/12 12:04 AM (1 year, 4 months ago)

Oh well I'm not to worried about that, it wasn't like "Go shoot dope"

it was more along the lines of "well if this is the life you choose then your gunna go shoot dope all the time so have fun with that"

:shrug:

fuck her and fuck junkies :shrug:

Post Extras:

withoutawire
Bunny Lover

Registered: 08/16/09
Posts: 10,915
Loc: San Francisco
Last seen: 4 hours, 12 minutes

Re: Ex gf started shooting up

[Re: Ghostwriter]
#15648296 - 01/11/12 03:07 AM (1 year, 4 months ago)

Talking to her will not stop a single thing. She has to have consequences to see the impact of her decisions.

Please tell her parents. You could be saving her life.

--------------------
:tigerbunny:

Post Extras:

Joolz

Registered: 09/19/10
Posts: 3,614
Last seen: 6 months, 16 days

Re: Ex gf started shooting up

[Re: withoutawire]
#15651117 - 01/11/12 06:51 PM (1 year, 4 months ago)

Quote:

withoutawire said:
Talking to her will not stop a single thing. She has to have consequences to see the impact of her decisions.

Please tell her parents. You could be saving her life.

I'm pretty much guaranteeing that her parents trying to "help" her after finding out she's shooting up isn't going to solve a single thing. I just have a hard time thinking any aspiring junkie is gonna listen to their parents when they say "thats bad don't do that."

--------------------
Prohibition didn't work for God; Eve ate the fruit.

Post Extras:

Ghostwriter

Registered: 06/18/10
Posts: 4,825
Loc: USA

Re: Ex gf started shooting up

[Re: Joolz]
#15651125 - 01/11/12 06:54 PM (1 year, 4 months ago)

Quote:

Joolz said:
Quote:

withoutawire said:
Talking to her will not stop a single thing. She has to have consequences to see the impact of her decisions.

Please tell her parents. You could be saving her life.

I'm pretty much guaranteeing that her parents trying to "help" her after finding out she's shooting up isn't going to solve a single thing. I just have a hard time thinking any aspiring junkie is gonna listen to their parents when they say "thats bad don't do that."

exactly! Her brother was my only option and I have given up and don't care anymore. I got too much to worry about in my own life then try and stop a junkie from continuing a bad habbit :shrug:

Post Extras:

Joolz

Registered: 09/19/10
Posts: 3,614
Last seen: 6 months, 16 days

Re: Ex gf started shooting up

[Re: Ghostwriter]
#15651145 - 01/11/12 07:00 PM (1 year, 4 months ago)

I'm just going off my own personal theory. I just know that when I was younger (as I have no true junkie experience, well, pot junkie but I don't think that counts :ganja:

) I hated it when people told me I was addicted to WoW.

Granted, I played it like 5 hours a day at least most days...but it doesn't matter. Nobody wants to hear it till they realize they're going into a pit. Let's hope she realizes it soon.

--------------------
Prohibition didn't work for God; Eve ate the fruit.

Post Extras:

Jwlst
Stranger

Registered: 02/24/05
Posts: 1,338
Last seen: 8 months, 2 days

Re: Ex gf started shooting up

[Re: Joolz]
#15651282 - 01/11/12 07:27 PM (1 year, 4 months ago)

Probaly half the stuff she txts you is made up to get a rise out of you.

Post Extras:

Ghostwriter

Registered: 06/18/10
Posts: 4,825
Loc: USA

Re: Ex gf started shooting up

[Re: Jwlst]
#15651285 - 01/11/12 07:28 PM (1 year, 4 months ago)

Quote:

Jwlst said:
Probaly half the stuff she txts you is made up to get a rise out of you.

YOu know what, thats kinda what i was thinking too? But who knows...

I took it as a cry for help at first, but i felt like she was fucking with me the last few times so i told her off.

Haven't heard from her since, and thats fine by me :shrug:

Post Extras:

withoutawire
Bunny Lover

Registered: 08/16/09
Posts: 10,915
Loc: San Francisco
Last seen: 4 hours, 12 minutes

Re: Ex gf started shooting up

[Re: Joolz]
#15653247 - 01/12/12 02:21 AM (1 year, 4 months ago)

Quote:

Joolz said:
Quote:

withoutawire said:
Talking to her will not stop a single thing. She has to have consequences to see the impact of her decisions.

Please tell her parents. You could be saving her life.

I'm pretty much guaranteeing that her parents trying to "help" her after finding out she's shooting up isn't going to solve a single thing. I just have a hard time thinking any aspiring junkie is gonna listen to their parents when they say "thats bad don't do that."

No but their parents can cut off money, a place to a live, a car etc.

If you don't have consequences you keep using. The parents are THE BEST PLACE to start. The family needs to know.

--------------------
:tigerbunny:

Post Extras:

Jump to top.

Pages: 1 | 2 [ show all ]

Community >> Sexuality and Relationships

Similar Threads	Poster	Views	Replies	Last post
how do you deal with crazy ex gfs? that vanish, talk shit to friends.and make you the bad guy? ( 1 2 all )	nowwhoutthink	2,277	20	09/11/10 02:30 PM by PowerTrip
Ex gf chronicles	Anonymous	568	13	01/25/11 10:47 PM by dshow
Ex GF help	Anonymous	584	10	10/27/10 09:51 PM by Anonymous
Just saw my ex's PICTURE!	XUL	1,031	17	12/05/11 05:55 PM by rustyeffect
Still Love / in-love-with an EX? Plus casual sEXing... ( 1 2 all )	CidneyIndole	841	24	02/06/11 03:07 AM by mthrbtch
gf's brother pissed at me and family drama (boring rant)	Anonymous	422	8	09/13/11 01:43 PM by Anonymous
So, my evil ex wants to get coffee..... ( 1 2 all )	Anonymous	891	26	10/02/11 10:37 AM by koraks
Ex threw away my stuff! WTF!	closed veil	1,274	15	01/02/12 10:19 PM by greys

Extra information

You cannot start new topics / You cannot reply to topics
HTML is disabled / BBCode is enabled
Moderator: boO, Acidic_Sloth, ZippoZ, automan, sadsappysucker, CureCat, yogabunny
556 topic views. 7 members, 25 guests and 0 web crawlers are browsing this forum.
[ Toggle Favorite | Print Topic ]

del.icio.us digg Furl MyWeb reddit StumbleUpon