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 HeroMike
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 Girlfriend wen't to a strip club with her X and a group of friends . 
#15499826 - 12/11/11 03:07 PM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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She said she was going to help out a friend whos having a hard time getting off heroin and a break up . So I say whatever as she tells me shes going to the strip club . I'm not gonna stand between her and her friends with that kind of thing going on . Well then I call her today and she told me that her ex was there as well as two of his friends and I'm all like WTF?
She knows I have trust issues with this individual and I made it clear I wasn't cool with them hanging out . So i flip a shit and freak out , her basic stand point was that i should just get over it and nothing happened .
I'm so hurt and confused by this shit I'm going to hack her phone and place spy software on there to see if shes fucking with my heart . Because I can't go on not knowing if I mean anything to her .
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Re: Girlfriend wen't to a strip club with her X and a group of friends . [Re: HeroMike] 1
#15499848 - 12/11/11 03:12 PM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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WTF kid?
"OMG I'm sucha pussy and cant trust my girlfriend even though she's never cheated on me, so i'm going to feel justified in being a fucking creep and installing spying software on her electronic appliances.."
Like, really?
Read your fucking post before you continue living your life, because your doing it wrong.
Grow up, find someone you can trust, don't be an insecure asshole to them, end.
Shit's too easy, but all you niggaz find a way to fuck it up, baffles my mind..
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HeroMike
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Re: Girlfriend wen't to a strip club with her X and a group of friends . [Re: iVoodoo]
#15499859 - 12/11/11 03:15 PM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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theres a longer back story here but thanks for your input !
"I'm an aplha male you betas don't know shit "
is what I got from it .
If she is cheating then I'd know and can justify breaking up with her .
If shes not I can drop the shit and know I can actually trust my woman which is more then I could say in the past .
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Re: Girlfriend wen't to a strip club with her X and a group of friends . [Re: HeroMike]
#15499872 - 12/11/11 03:18 PM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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I dunno man that shit is sketchy. My ex did the same thing, she kept talking to her ex again and she dumped me and got straight together with him. They broke up within 2 weeks
Just be careful. I really don't know what to say because I don't know you're girl but just tread carefully from now on.
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 Lynnch
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Re: Girlfriend wen't to a strip club with her X and a group of friends . [Re: Uzziel]
#15500310 - 12/11/11 05:00 PM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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Trust dude, you need trust.
Spying on her isn't gonna solve anything.
Either you talk about this shit with her and it gets resolved or you're gonna keep being paranoid and your relationship will suffer.
Telling her who she can and can't hang out with is whack, but it is reasonable for you to be uncomfortable if shes hanging with her ex- you just have to trust her when she says nothing happened.
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Re: Girlfriend wen't to a strip club with her X and a group of friends . [Re: Lynnch]
#15500362 - 12/11/11 05:12 PM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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When you get into a relationship, you take a risk. You risk getting hurt. Unless you have reason to believe that she's fucking someone else (other than just running into an ex), trust her.
Also "I'm not cool with her hanging out with an ex". What the fuck? She's her own person, she can hang out with whoever she wants. She doesn't need your permission.
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Re: Girlfriend wen't to a strip club with her X and a group of friends . [Re: Shroomerited]
#15500402 - 12/11/11 05:26 PM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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Depends on if they all went together or just happened to bump into one another. Woman have ways of hiding things quite easily for long periods of time without getting caught. Don't flip out just tell her that her ex should be out of her life if she respects and loves you enough. With that being said, she probably is telling the truth and I think you would be able to tell if anything happened cause she would try to blow it off instead of getting mad at you for thinking such things went on. I know if a guy accused me of something that I didn't do I would get upset at him and if I really did something I would probably turn right around say whatever and leave the room to avoid talking about it.
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Re: Girlfriend wen't to a strip club with her X and a group of friends . [Re: LadySativa] 1
#15500526 - 12/11/11 05:57 PM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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I'm so hurt and confused by this shit I'm going to hack her phone and place spy software on there to see if shes fucking with my heart . Because I can't go on not knowing if I mean anything to her .
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Re: Girlfriend wen't to a strip club with her X and a group of friends . [Re: Mr. Bojangles]
#15503227 - 12/12/11 04:42 AM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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You talk to her about it and tell her why you don't agree with what she did? Only one way to solve it, and that's head on. If it were me in your shoes I'd have lost it too, but she knows already where I stand. If she said he just happened to be there, and told me about it days after the fact I'd tell her to kick rocks, but if she was there and told me about it then I'd say to tell him hi for me.
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Re: Girlfriend wen't to a strip club with her X and a group of friends . [Re: fngbronco] 1
#15503243 - 12/12/11 04:50 AM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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She's fucking someone else bro.
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Re: Girlfriend wen't to a strip club with her X and a group of friends . [Re: HeroMike]
#15503587 - 12/12/11 08:52 AM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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hacking and spyware are not the answer and will only lead to darker places and will not give you peace of mind. peace of mind can only come from yourself.
talk to her without the yelling and screaming, and lay your feelings out;then you'll know if she cares or not, or if she is two timing or not, without the stalker MO.
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Re: Girlfriend wen't to a strip club with her X and a group of friends . [Re: novum] 1
#15503626 - 12/12/11 09:08 AM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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Eh i used a keylogger once for an ex. I had a feeling something screwy was goin on i confronted my BF about it and all was denied. after a little longer of excuses lying about where he was an shit i put a ley logger on the comp found out in a day i was getting cheated on an i broke it off the next day easy peasy.
i totally agree that this guy needs to get over his issues with his ladies ex but i also see a point for wanting to know. plus like he said we dont know the whole story and it sounds to me like there may have been some infidelity in the past. 
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Re: Girlfriend wen't to a strip club with her X and a group of friends . [Re: Anonymous #2]
#15505326 - 12/12/11 04:57 PM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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didn't you already know this without the keylogger? that's what i'm getting at....
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AUX
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Re: Girlfriend wen't to a strip club with her X and a group of friends . [Re: novum]
#15507750 - 12/13/11 12:27 AM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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They went to a strip club together. A strip club is obviously a sexually charged environment. She's hanging out in a sexually charged environment with her ex, probably having drinks. You guys don't see something wrong with that?
I'm not saying he should be able to tell her where she can go and who she can go with, but if she had any respect for the OP, she wouldn't be going to strip clubs with her ex. Simple as that.
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All We Perceive
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Re: Girlfriend wen't to a strip club with her X and a group of friends . [Re: AUX]
#15508313 - 12/13/11 02:59 AM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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AUX said:
They went to a strip club together. A strip club is obviously a sexually charged environment. She's hanging out in a sexually charged environment with her ex, probably having drinks. You guys don't see something wrong with that?
I'm not saying he should be able to tell her where she can go and who she can go with, but if she had any respect for the OP, she wouldn't be going to strip clubs with her ex. Simple as that.
Completely agree. I have no problem with a gf hanging out with her ex from to time, but going to a strip club together seems kind of over the top. Knowing that there has been sexual connectivity in the past + strip club = letting yourself walk right into getting cheated on. Spying software seems pretty dumb though. That being said, RP never indicated his gf invited her ex per se; maybe he just showed up randomly? People do go to strip clubs after all. Either way, relationships are pretty hellacious without a good trust. I would just break up with her and figure out your issues broski. You seem over your head.
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With that being said, she probably is telling the truth and I think you would be able to tell if anything happened cause she would try to blow it off instead of getting mad at you for thinking such things went on.
Disagree. My ex would get super mad when I caught her clearly lying. She was an exceptional liar and I suppose she was offended that I caught her har har  Depends on the girl I suppose.
Edited by All We Perceive (12/13/11 03:06 AM)
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Re: Girlfriend wen't to a strip club with her X and a group of friends . [Re: All We Perceive]
#15508942 - 12/13/11 07:42 AM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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Don't put any fucking spy shit on her phone. If she finds that out your fucked. If a bitch did that to me I would break it off immediately!
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Re: Girlfriend wen't to a strip club with her X and a group of friends . [Re: spacer]
#15509362 - 12/13/11 10:42 AM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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This girl obviously has little respect for you. To go to a strip club with a ex means that something is going on or could be, but even if there is not, why do it?
What if you went to a strip club with your ex girlfriend, what would she think about that? What if you went out for dinner and drinks, is that OK?
There is a big difference between having trust and being very disrespectful, you have a right to be pissed with your gf, why even trust someone who is so disrespectful? I say this is not the girl for you, if she thinks this is OK behavior and you know it is wrong, you guys are worlds apart in what a relationship is about.
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Re: Girlfriend wen't to a strip club with her X and a group of friends . [Re: qman]
#15509949 - 12/13/11 01:15 PM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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qman said:
This girl obviously has little respect for you. To go to a strip club with a ex means that something is going on or could be, but even if there is not, why do it?
What if you went to a strip club with your ex girlfriend, what would she think about that? What if you went out for dinner and drinks, is that OK?
There is a big difference between having trust and being very disrespectful, you have a right to be pissed with your gf, why even trust someone who is so disrespectful? I say this is not the girl for you, if she thinks this is OK behavior and you know think it is wrong, you guys are worlds apart in what a relationship is about.
How come she can think something is OK, and he can KNOW it's wrong? They can have different opinions, but it's not inherently wrong. Everyone's relationship is different, and there is no black and white right or wrong.
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Re: Girlfriend wen't to a strip club with her X and a group of friends . [Re: HeroMike]
#15513090 - 12/14/11 12:12 AM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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HeroMike said:
Because I can't go on not knowing if I mean anything to her .
If you guys are dating, shouldn't you already know that you mean something to her? Either confront her respectfully about it and choose to trust her, or don't trust her and move on. Yeah, there may be past issues there, but just "flipping shit" and spying on her will just make things worse.
If you really like this girl, just confront her about it and decide whether you trust her or not. Your relationship won't go anywhere if you're constantly questioning whether or not she's cheating on you. Eventually, it'll become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Your lack of trust will push her away. If you like her enough, don't let that happen.
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Re: Girlfriend wen't to a strip club with her X and a group of friends . [Re: HeroMike]
#15514281 - 12/14/11 08:57 AM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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If shes not I can drop the shit and know I can actually trust my woman which is more then I could say in the past .
This is likely the problem. Sounds like you already have reasons not to trust this girl, and probably should have broken up with her already.
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Edited by Heffy (12/14/11 08:58 AM)
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