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 Re: How many text messages b4 you stop?  [Re: Anonymous #4]
#14684470 - 06/28/11 06:14 AM (1 year, 11 months ago) |
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Yrtlzmo said:
That's the best attitude you can have with this girl if you still want her, don't give a fuck, go on with your life. Look for other more mature girls while you're at it but don't forget about her if you really do like her. If she has feelings for you somewhere then seeing you move on and forget, like I said, will upset her. You don't have to do the two day thing, that was only an example of you showing you don't care or care about the same or less as she has shown. No girl wants a guy who is more into her than she is him, they're usually not trying to settle for someone, yeah it's fucked up and immature but that's what A LOT of girls are like.
But think about it, isn't it kind of a turn off if a girl is all over you, doesn't it kind of make you think, "what's wrong with them that they're so obsessed?" Maybe, maybe not, it's more common with girls because girls tend to be more insecure, really insecure so if you're completely into them from the beginning they'll think there's something wrong with you.
Obviously this is a generalization and every guys dream is to find a great, beautiful, interesting girl who doesn't play games and you can just come out and say, "I like you, let's date" and she'll say, "great, same." It's just rare, I think the media has really fucked with girls heads because from my experience every girl has reacted positively to being ignored.
Anyway good luck, I agree their games are incredibly immature and annoying, but unfortunately it's something we end up doing at some point.
Great post man, thx for the input.
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Re: How many text messages b4 you stop? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#14684727 - 06/28/11 08:33 AM (1 year, 11 months ago) |
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You never had a shot in hell,
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Re: How many text messages b4 you stop? [Re: Humility]
#14686352 - 06/28/11 03:37 PM (1 year, 11 months ago) |
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You never had a shot in hell,
I probably did have a shot in hell. I mean the combination for anything exists in the world. I just definitely rolled in the wrong numbers. But shit, who wants to waste time figuring out some of those girls?
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Re: How many text messages b4 you stop? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#14686678 - 06/28/11 04:25 PM (1 year, 11 months ago) |
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nah dude I'm not trying to down you; jkust the way he said it was funny.
I'm no casanova mah dude but it's really not that difficult. Even I get excited energy when I'm going to go meet a new girl.
Just be cool, have fun and most importantly be both HONEST and RESERVED to appropriate degrees. Don't just try to bend her over and fuck her the second you meet her but if you like the girl and want to touch her, just do it.
If you want to talk to her, just go talk to her about shit that YOU CARE ABOUT. You gotta learn the kind of stuff that one oughtn't talk about first though (shit that makes you sound crazy, drugs [could be the police], too much factual type shit, etc.)
Most importantly, whatever you say or do make sure that both she and you are laughing naturally and that conversation is flowing both ways and that you could say to yourself that "I'm having a pretty decent time" at least.
Because truthfully man that's the whole idea. It's not really all about fucking. You're not gonna fuck every broad you like; but sometimes just hanging out with a girl can make you feel great inside ^_^.
Don't be no trick though; make sure you keep it at least 50/50.
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Re: How many text messages b4 you stop? [Re: Humility]
#14689181 - 06/29/11 12:47 AM (1 year, 11 months ago) |
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thx man solid advice
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Re: How many text messages b4 you stop? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#14689254 - 06/29/11 12:58 AM (1 year, 11 months ago) |
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I probably did have a shot in hell.
No, you didn't, and you really, REALLY need to accept that.
Most girls know within five minutes of meeting someone if they consider them non-dating material for themselves. This girl categorized you as such and continued to selfishly use you for attention and an ego boost.
You're only torturing yourself by thinking that if you'd done things just right or played it more smooth or done whatever magic fucking thing that this girl would've wanted to date you. She wouldn't have. Ever. She might've strung you along a little harder until she found what she wanted, but that's it.
She was not into you, bro.
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Re: How many text messages b4 you stop? [Re: Anonymous #5]
#14689597 - 06/29/11 02:22 AM (1 year, 11 months ago) |
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I probably did have a shot in hell.
No, you didn't, and you really, REALLY need to accept that.
Most girls know within five minutes of meeting someone if they consider them non-dating material for themselves. This girl categorized you as such and continued to selfishly use you for attention and an ego boost.
You're only torturing yourself by thinking that if you'd done things just right or played it more smooth or done whatever magic fucking thing that this girl would've wanted to date you. She wouldn't have. Ever. She might've strung you along a little harder until she found what she wanted, but that's it.
She was not into you, bro.
Look man, I understand what youre trying to say, but think youre being very extreme here. There are no absolutes, most certainly not in the dating scene. The same scenario youre trying to tell me is impossible is a scenario a co-worker told me about with a guy who persistently tried to date her. She was indifferent and rejected his advances over and over again for a very long time. Eventually she just said fuckit due to his doggedness and went for him, and it worked out; now they're happily married.
Im not saying im planning on putting out that kind of effort, at least not with this one, but im just trying to disprove your point, for your own good. Absolutes are pretty much fallacies imo. I could try with this girl, until she either gets a restraining order or decides to give me a chance. It is possible to push things past a dating superficiality such as 'knowing within 5 minutes' about a decision that could potentially affect your entire life.
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Re: How many text messages b4 you stop? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#14689808 - 06/29/11 03:17 AM (1 year, 11 months ago) |
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Look man, I understand what youre trying to say, but think youre being very extreme here. There are no absolutes, most certainly not in the dating scene.
It's not an absolute. It's just true 99.9% of the time.
And it's absolutely true for your case. You got friendzoned. It's obvious to anyone looking at this from the outside.
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Re: How many text messages b4 you stop? [Re: Anonymous #5]
#14689985 - 06/29/11 04:24 AM (1 year, 11 months ago) |
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i didnt even get friendzoned. I got rebuffed on much deeper and more intimate level. she was knawing through the bone in my skull, sucking my eyeballs out of their cavities, and savoring the slimy pulp inside for all i care. that is no friend. she might be a harpy, or some kind of ravenous woodland beast that i mistook for a woman, in a weakened mental state dint of sleep deprivation and copious alcohol intake.
jesus what have i done. i cuddled with this beast
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Re: How many text messages b4 you stop? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#14690003 - 06/29/11 04:33 AM (1 year, 11 months ago) |
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In response to the question posed as the title to this thread.
Once. Maybe twice, if you think for some reason she did not get the first message, but that is always a stretch. These things get through, people read them, then they decide whether or not to respond.
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Re: How many text messages b4 you stop? [Re: drr]
#14691669 - 06/29/11 03:09 PM (1 year, 11 months ago) |
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well she texted me back today about an invitation i sent her sunday to go to knotts berry farm with me and some friends of mine, saying sorry her phone was acting up or some shit and she would like to go but cant afford it.
i texted her back saying sorry i would have totally paid for you but already asked someone else who said she could make it.
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Re: How many text messages b4 you stop? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#14691742 - 06/29/11 03:24 PM (1 year, 11 months ago) |
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well she texted me back today about an invitation i sent her sunday to go to knotts berry farm with me and some friends of mine, saying sorry her phone was acting up or some shit and she would like to go but cant afford it.
i texted her back saying sorry i would have totally paid for you but already asked someone else who said she could make it.
You're not a very clever fellow.
Maybe her phone was acting up, maybe it was a blow off.
You'd know more if you had asked her to hang out a different day rather than being rude to her.
Are you 14?
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Re: How many text messages b4 you stop? [Re: luvdemshrooms]
#14691799 - 06/29/11 03:38 PM (1 year, 11 months ago) |
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How is what I said rude?
And not returning calls/texts isnt rude? I dont care if she doesnt call back at this point, ive already shed enough grief wondering if shes interested, not interested, cause she decides not to communicate until she feels like it.
I dont want to have to worry about that every fucking time with her and get the same bullshit. So ill text her in a day or two, and hopefully shell text back faster this time.
Edited by Anonymous (06/29/11 03:48 PM)
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Re: How many text messages b4 you stop? [Re: shLong]
#14691811 - 06/29/11 03:41 PM (1 year, 11 months ago) |
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anon fail
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Re: How many text messages b4 you stop? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#14691870 - 06/29/11 03:54 PM (1 year, 11 months ago) |
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Anonymous said:
How is what I said rude?
Well. You told her you found a different girl that wants to go with you. No matter how you meant it.....
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Re: How many text messages b4 you stop? [Re: drr]
#14691892 - 06/29/11 03:59 PM (1 year, 11 months ago) |
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Whatever. Obviously this whole fucking experience has been a debauch, and apparently im still not getting it right.
The shroomery sucks ass for advice with dating. thats what ive learned. i really liked this girl and have managed to fuck it up.
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Re: How many text messages b4 you stop? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#14691964 - 06/29/11 04:15 PM (1 year, 11 months ago) |
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You forgot to click anon
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Re: How many text messages b4 you stop? [Re: automan]
#14692081 - 06/29/11 04:35 PM (1 year, 11 months ago) |
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well thx for telling me it was a dumb move ppls. i called her up and explained id rather go with her, so shes going with me afterall.
but seriously im done posting my problems about this here on the shroomery. im gonna just be myself, and if it works out it does. no more of this.
/endthread
p.s. thx automan
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Re: How many text messages b4 you stop? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#14692087 - 06/29/11 04:36 PM (1 year, 11 months ago) |
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Re: How many text messages b4 you stop? [Re: automan]
#14692130 - 06/29/11 04:44 PM (1 year, 11 months ago) |
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Actually anon that wasn't so bad.
The girl saw value in you because you were "going with someone else". You made an iffy move telling her you'd rather go with her (oh baby I want you/neediness) but that demonstrates your ability to be selective and choose what YOU want as well.
She's excited because she "won". It worked out fine this time around. More selective girls might actually NEED to sit on the sidelines and mull over how a night alone feels rather than just a quick flash of a thought of that being a possibility.
And in reality you made the WHOLE FUCKING THING UP.
So IMO, fucking BRA-VO brah.
Sincerely.
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