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 GF wants threesome 
#14663393 - 06/24/11 02:54 AM (1 year, 10 months ago) |
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So here's the thing.
My partner of 10 years has recently become slightly obsessed with threesome.
Specifically two male threesome or the devils threesome if you will.
Being a go with the flow kinda guy i told her to get on one of those dating sites and find a geezer.
Thinking nothing would come of it you know.
Now she's found a guy.
From his profile he seems like a cool guy.
They've been in communication, all out in the open as in lets me read all msg etc.
The thing is,
I fuckin love this girl, always have.
I want her to experience and fulfill her desires but at the same time don't want to lose her obviously.
I'd like to know if anyone here has been in this or similar situation.
How did it pan out?
Looking back, would you do things the same way?
Am i mad for even considering ?
Am i the coolest bf in the world?
Any thoughts / advice on the subject would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks.
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 Crystal G
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You would definitely be the coolest boyfriend in my book, but if you are not comfortable with it, I would really sit down and talk with her about it. You don't want to do something and then feel any kind of regret afterward; this talk is mainly going to be for YOU.
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McMushrooms420
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I have never done it with a gf, only girls I didn't ever plan on having a relationship with.
But I have heard that it can fuck shit up, if your both into it try it out and see if you like it. Maybe you will maybe you won't but hopefully you both have the same outcome. Good luck.
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Don't do something you aren't comfortable with.
My girlfriend's fantasy is to be with a girl, and have me there too.
Obviously, the only problem i had with this is that i didn't want to lose her.
i mean what if she likes her better than me?
i know exactly how you feel. I talked to my girl though, and told her this. So we will hold off on the threesome for a while.
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 Re: GF wants threesome [Re: Crystal G]
#14664019 - 06/24/11 08:14 AM (1 year, 10 months ago) |
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Crystal G said:
You would definitely be the coolest boyfriend in my book, but if you are not comfortable with it, I would really sit down and talk with her about it. You don't want to do something and then feel any kind of regret afterward; this talk is mainly going to be for YOU.
Pretty much.
Also @OP, you won't lose her. In fact she will love you more.
Thats just dumb fear talking - kick it away.
(Also lets face it if thats all it takes for her to leave you then she isn't worth it and you should be happy)
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Tough spot OP. All you can do at this point is to convey your concerns to her in a reasonable and logical fasion. Then, the two of you should work out how you will proceed.
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Re: GF wants threesome [Re: meams]
#14664125 - 06/24/11 09:02 AM (1 year, 10 months ago) |
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meams said:
Tough spot OP. All you can do at this point is to convey your concerns to her in a reasonable and logical fasion. Then, the two of you should work out how you will proceed.
Stress the REASONABLE and LOGICAL.
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Re: GF wants threesome [Re: Humility]
#14665241 - 06/24/11 02:17 PM (1 year, 10 months ago) |
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Don't just do it for her. You have to make sure you are comfortable before hand, otherwise it'll ruin the mood and relationship as she might feel guilt for putting you in the situation.
Talk about what you are comfortable with first and what she wishes to gain from this. (how far do you want her (or even you!) to go with the other guy?)
Also make sure you have a way to abort the whole thing if it turns out either of you aren't comfortable.
And most importantly, Don't go into anything like this as a way to fix a relationship. You should be comfortable with how you feel about each other before doing anything! This means talking to her and ridding any doubts that you might lose her though this.
Oh and play safe!
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weird
 hey I'm the guy from the internet, let's do it
sorry I had to 
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How did it pan out?
At first, it was almost a disaster, but it went really well in the end. I'd do it again. I was somewhat interested seeing her with another man though. I was not interested in guy/guy stuff, but I ended up doing making out and exchanging oral with him because he announced he was 45/55 interested in m/f and seeing us together was one of her biggest fantasies ever. The m/m interaction just confirmed that I'm not into guys, but her excitement/orgasm while watching us was 100% worth it. My only regret is that the other guy involved is a little awkward and his refusal to acknowledge what happened/apparent lack of continued interested in my girlfriend briefly caused her to be very self-conscious/depressed about how sexy she was.
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Looking back, would you do things the same way?
More or less. It was kind of annoying that I had to lay it out on the table for the other guy involved and tell him personally it was okay without my girlfriend there. I also disliked the fact that he and my girlfriend needed to be plastered to get over their societal conditioning. I was sober the entire time and he kept on losing his erection which was annoying for everyone.
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Am i mad for even considering?
Not really if you're comfortable with it and want to give your girlfriend what she wants. If everyone approaches it with a rational mind and knows that it's just sex there shouldn't be any problems.
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Am i the coolest bf in the world?
No, but much more open minded than most which is a very good thing.
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Cheers for all the feedback.
Very much appreciated.
I'm incredibly torn by the whole situation.
Nothing turns me on more than seeing my girl in the height of ecstasy.
Part of me is excited, part of me is scared shitless.
We're going to meet the guy.
Have a jam since we're all musicians.
See what the vibe is like.
Take it slow.
If he turns out to be cooler than me in any way shape or form I'll pull the plug lol.
abort abort abort !
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Anonymous said:
If he turns out to be cooler than me in any way shape or form I'll pull the plug lol.
abort abort abort !
LOL you're the same way as me, bro.
If my guy wanted it, I would definitely consider a 3some with another woman.
But if she is hotter than me, cooler than me, or has a better body than me I'mma be like, FUCKKKKKKKKKKKKK NO! 
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Thus, me taking control of my sexuality is my big way of saying "FUCK YOU" to the institution, and another "FUCK YOU" to the patriarchy!
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Re: GF wants threesome [Re: Crystal G]
#14669321 - 06/25/11 09:21 AM (1 year, 10 months ago) |
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Shouldent it go both ways ? Since she wants a 3 some with 2 guys one girl . Shouldent you get a 2 girl one guy bid off of this ?
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Anonymous said:
Shouldent it go both ways ? Since she wants a 3 some with 2 guys one girl . Shouldent you get a 2 girl one guy bid off of this ?
This, If she disagrees to get with another girl for you. Don't let her fuck another dude.
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Anonymous said:
Shouldent it go both ways ? Since she wants a 3 some with 2 guys one girl . Shouldent you get a 2 girl one guy bid off of this ?
Exactly
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Just be sure you communicate man. If you don't mention how you feel about it/think about it to her it's just gonna build and it'll eat you up. Just be open with her, that's what this whole thing is about.
Why do you people always want a fucking reward? It should be enough for him to come over this awkwardness and should be reward enough to give something selflessly to his girl, if she offers cool, but asking and trying to set a value on this is just gonna fuck the whole thing up.
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Re: GF wants threesome [Re: drr]
#14670348 - 06/25/11 02:55 PM (1 year, 10 months ago) |
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drr said:
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Anonymous said:
Shouldent it go both ways ? Since she wants a 3 some with 2 guys one girl . Shouldent you get a 2 girl one guy bid off of this ?
Exactly
This is the only way I'd be comfortable with this situation.
Truthfully though I've been fairly sexually deprived during my life time and I don't really feel the need to have 3+ person interactions, just unnecessary for ME.
I'd be open though. Gotta be open.
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Re: GF wants threesome [Re: Humility]
#14673074 - 06/26/11 02:50 AM (1 year, 10 months ago) |
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the ultimate question:
are you going to be ok with the fact of watching/participating in someone else bang your chick of 10 years.
if you can answer that question, yes honestly then, well go for it and get your tit for tat which would be the 2 girls and yourself later on.
good luck man...
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Anonymous said:
Nothing turns me on more than seeing my girl in the height of ecstasy.
Really? Even if it's because she's enjoying being fucked by another man more than she enjoys being fucked by you? Because she will and you'll have to live with that forever.
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