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 BrenExplode
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 New girl at work and lack of balls. 
#14459270 - 05/15/11 11:38 PM (2 years, 6 days ago) |
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So there is this new girl at work, who I find to be extremely attractive. I've never been very good when it comes to talking to girls I like, and I haven't had a decent relationship in a while, but I've accepted the coincidental fact that a lot of girls consider me attractive looking. However, this does not change my behavior towards them. I am a fucking coward when it comes to talking to them.
On her first day, I really didn't think of her in that way when I punched in, but she passed by me as I was working, very confidently said I was hot, and continued walking. At first I didn't think she was talking to me, since she was quite stealthy about it. Throughout the rest of her shift, I noticed her looking at me a lot, and smiling at me. I have been thinking about it a lot the past few days and didn't really know how to handle it. I just felt I should suck it up and talk to her, since clearly we both like each other and know it.
It was fine up until today. I got 3 hours of sleep, had no food, and was working a double shift, not that those should be excuses, but I was tired and stressed out. All I could think about is what I would say to her when she got in, and basically, I said nothing. A few glances like the first day, and a quick hi here and there, but nothing spectacular. And I feel I may have blown my chance with her. I don't want her to think of me as insecure, but I just got so choked up with fear that I refused to say anything meaningful. Maybe we're just both too shy to say anything to each other, or maybe she's waiting for me to make a move. Either way, I really have no idea what I'm going to do about it. Thoughts?
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Concepts I'll ponder, and concepts I won't ever see.
God isn't one of these, former or latter.
Which did you think I meant?
It doesn't matter to me.
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Re: New girl at work and lack of balls. [Re: BrenExplode]
#14459293 - 05/15/11 11:41 PM (2 years, 6 days ago) |
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pescadorabioso
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Re: New girl at work and lack of balls. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#14459296 - 05/15/11 11:41 PM (2 years, 6 days ago) |
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She's fucking someone else bro.
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What has made them conceive that man must want a rationally advantageous choice?
I've become desensitized to these types of occurrences thus far. Yet, there lies a sensation of bitter disappointment embedded within.
FINE YOU IMBECILE; SUFFER!! IT IS YOURSELF THAT YOU ARE HURTING. NOTHING IS DETERRING YOU FROM ATTAINING THAT OF WHICH YOU INHERENTLY CRAVE. YOU HAVE LET THEM TAKE OVER YOUR MIND, YOU ARE NO LONGER IN CONTROL, YOU NEVER WERE.
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BrenExplode
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It doesn't seem like it. She seems like a really nice girl who is genuinely interested. And if she is, that's all fine by me. I don't really have many expectations at this point.
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There've been times when I wander, and times when I don't.
Concepts I'll ponder, and concepts I won't ever see.
God isn't one of these, former or latter.
Which did you think I meant?
It doesn't matter to me.
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toader123
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lmao^^^
You just need to man up dude. You already kinda seem like a wuss in her eyes. Girls like a guy with confidence. It's natural to have some fear, but don't let it get to you.
Next time you see her. Just TALK TO HER. she's just a fucking person like anyone else. just start with some small talk and over time you guys we'll find some common interests. From there you'll feel out whether or not things might go to the next level.... You just have to keep in mind "what do you have to lose"? the answer is nothing.
Stop being a puss, and take that shit!
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 rackem
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Re: New girl at work and lack of balls. [Re: toader123]
#14459458 - 05/16/11 12:10 AM (2 years, 6 days ago) |
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its very easy..
start with hi..
compliment her something
and ask her how she is doing...
keep the formula simple and talking to females isnt all that hard/bad.
and if ya mess up one day, apologize and make up for it the next.
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Re: New girl at work and lack of balls. [Re: BrenExplode]
#14460609 - 05/16/11 05:43 AM (2 years, 6 days ago) |
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She wants you to talk to her.
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Re: New girl at work and lack of balls. [Re: Anonymous #2]
#14461184 - 05/16/11 11:17 AM (2 years, 6 days ago) |
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Just ask her about herself...music, movies, etc
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Re: New girl at work and lack of balls. [Re: BrenExplode] 1
#14461718 - 05/16/11 01:59 PM (2 years, 6 days ago) |
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This is what you are turning it into:
Stop overcomplicating it and make small talk. If you can't do that you don't deserve her attention
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Re: New girl at work and lack of balls. [Re: Anonymous #3]
#14461943 - 05/16/11 02:48 PM (2 years, 6 days ago) |
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Just ask her what she thinks about the hidden variables of the inner workings of an electron, chicks dig that kind of shit.
Or just say hi and mention something about what she's wearing or something.
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thangin'.
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BrenExplode
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Re: New girl at work and lack of balls. [Re: thoughts]
#14462291 - 05/16/11 04:08 PM (2 years, 6 days ago) |
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I know that I need to man up. It's almost like I was better at it before, and now, stupid thoughts just cloud my judgment when I KNOW for a fact that I'm overcomplicating it. I know she wants me to talk to her, and I want to talk to her. In fact, it seems like I have more of a chance with her than I've had with any girls I've been interested in over the past year. I'm just paranoid of judgments, when I know deep down not to give a fuck. Of course I will keep trying, and stop trying to make a big deal out of it. I suppose I just have built up stress on the thought of actually getting back into the habit of talking to girls I like.
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There've been times when I wander, and times when I don't.
Concepts I'll ponder, and concepts I won't ever see.
God isn't one of these, former or latter.
Which did you think I meant?
It doesn't matter to me.
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Simms
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Re: New girl at work and lack of balls. [Re: thoughts]
#14462322 - 05/16/11 04:12 PM (2 years, 6 days ago) |
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Quote:
iwasaClown said:
Just ask her what she thinks about the hidden variables of the inner workings of an electron, chicks dig that kind of shit.
I agree with this post. You'd be amazed.
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BrenExplode
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Re: New girl at work and lack of balls. [Re: Simms]
#14462357 - 05/16/11 04:20 PM (2 years, 6 days ago) |
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Quote:
Simms said:
Quote:
iwasaClown said:
Just ask her what she thinks about the hidden variables of the inner workings of an electron, chicks dig that kind of shit.
I agree with this post. You'd be amazed.
As much as I'm interested in that, I feel I wouldn't have enough knowledge of it to actually hold a conversation in it. Honestly, I'm kind of looking for someone who's willing to learn with me.
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There've been times when I wander, and times when I don't.
Concepts I'll ponder, and concepts I won't ever see.
God isn't one of these, former or latter.
Which did you think I meant?
It doesn't matter to me.
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Miss Match
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Re: New girl at work and lack of balls. [Re: BrenExplode]
#14462398 - 05/16/11 04:28 PM (2 years, 6 days ago) |
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Girls are way more forgiving than these dudes are making out.
If she has been smiling and looking at you, she's keen.
You can't really go wrong at the moment. If you are shy and a bit bumblely, she'll just think it's endearing. Really. I promise. Even if you just walk up to her and say, "so, i was trying to think of something interesting to say so i could come over and talk to you, but I just started walking before I thought of anything, so you'll have to start I'm afraid" - that will get some kind of tounge and cheek convo going. just be a goof ball, say something silly, she won't care! and then just ask her to lunch with confidence. Make eye contact to display confidence. 
You'll be sweet.
(though i hope you've thought through the implications of a relationship with someone you work with and how it could get awkward if it doesn't work out well)
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Re: New girl at work and lack of balls. [Re: Miss Match]
#14462634 - 05/16/11 05:11 PM (2 years, 6 days ago) |
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Or since you are working with her now and she is new, ask her things like:
"So how do you like working here?"
and/or
"Has anyone showed you how to _____?"
That way you know what to say and you can more easily segue to a more casual conversation. Also, it gives you the facade of duty, but she'll also think you are being helpful.
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toader123
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Re: New girl at work and lack of balls. [Re: Anonymous #2]
#14463178 - 05/16/11 06:54 PM (2 years, 6 days ago) |
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What he said^^
Ask her how she's liking the job so far. Ask If she goes to school (or where she graduated from). If she is from the area. Does she go out and party... Small talk.
It's kinda hard not to befriend your coworkers. You guys will be chatting it up and flirting in no time.. Once you get comfortable enough, ask her out to some coffee. it sounds dumb, but over the years I've realized that nothing is better than a coffee date. It's short, casual and a good way to get to the next level.
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Simms
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Re: New girl at work and lack of balls. [Re: Anonymous #2]
#14463184 - 05/16/11 06:55 PM (2 years, 6 days ago) |
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Ask her what she meant with the saying "you are hot", in detail.
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Re: New girl at work and lack of balls. [Re: Simms]
#14463209 - 05/16/11 07:01 PM (2 years, 5 days ago) |
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get a beer after work, everyone wants to unwind after the day. Go with a group of coworkers, its that easy
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Re: New girl at work and lack of balls. [Re: fbi365]
#14463318 - 05/16/11 07:23 PM (2 years, 5 days ago) |
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Just be all like "me and so and so are heading over to _____ at around 7:30, you should swing through"
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Re: New girl at work and lack of balls. [Re: toader123]
#14463420 - 05/16/11 07:40 PM (2 years, 5 days ago) |
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Quote:
toader123 said:
What she* said^^
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