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#12821289 - 06/29/10 02:44 AM (2 years, 11 months ago) |
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I know I shouldn't fear death but some things about make me feel really sad / scared.
* like how sad my GF, and dog, and family would be if I died.
* that all the goals I had would never come true, so I couldn't do the things I wanted that I always felt I would.
* that I will feel guilt for all the things I could have done in the world. or feel bad for the bad things I did.
those are the reasons I am afraid of death I feel I need a spiritual perspective on these. i dont want to fear these things. every night I go to sleep and think this is it, hope I dont die in my sleep.
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Re: can you ease my fear of death [Re: percy]
#12821306 - 06/29/10 02:48 AM (2 years, 11 months ago) |
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If you believe that you are an eternal soul (like reincarnation or a heaven), then the fear of not having time to achieve goals should disappear and of you believe that we are all as one and connected by an ultimate source(god) then you don't need to feel sad about being physically apart from your gf or dog
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Re: can you ease my fear of death [Re: percy]
#12821315 - 06/29/10 02:51 AM (2 years, 11 months ago) |
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Re: can you ease my fear of death [Re: percy]
#12821398 - 06/29/10 03:20 AM (2 years, 11 months ago) |
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Quote:
percy said:
I know I shouldn't fear death but some things about make me feel really sad / scared.
* like how sad my GF, and dog, and family would be if I died.
* that all the goals I had would never come true, so I couldn't do the things I wanted that I always felt I would.
* that I will feel guilt for all the things I could have done in the world. or feel bad for the bad things I did.
those are the reasons I am afraid of death I feel I need a spiritual perspective on these. i dont want to fear these things. every night I go to sleep and think this is it, hope I dont die in my sleep.
 I feel your pain, I've been there before.
What do you put your faith in? What beliefs are you certain of?
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Re: can you ease my fear of death [Re: percy]
#12821826 - 06/29/10 06:44 AM (2 years, 11 months ago) |
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Quote:
percy said:
* like how sad my GF, and dog, and family would be if I died.
* that all the goals I had would never come true, so I couldn't do the things I wanted that I always felt I would.
* that I will feel guilt for all the things I could have done in the world. or feel bad for the bad things I did.
Could it be that when you die you will be even closer to your girlfriend & dog than you ever were in physical form?
Could it be that the ultimate goal of life is to die and in doing that you have attained perfection?
Could it be that when you die you will look back on your life with not guilt but total compassion & forgiveness for your previous ignorance?
Edited by The Chronic (06/29/10 07:24 AM)
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Re: can you ease my fear of death [Re: percy]
#12821861 - 06/29/10 07:09 AM (2 years, 11 months ago) |
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You have a choice, you can fear death or you can enjoy life.
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Re: can you ease my fear of death [Re: percy]
#12821872 - 06/29/10 07:22 AM (2 years, 11 months ago) |
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can you ease my fear of death?
nope, you cant ask others to do something they cant do, which you can only do by yourself..
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Re: can you ease my fear of death [Re: percy]
#12821908 - 06/29/10 07:41 AM (2 years, 11 months ago) |
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Quote:
percy said:
I know I shouldn't fear death but some things about make me feel really sad / scared.
* like how sad my GF, and dog, and family would be if I died.
* that all the goals I had would never come true, so I couldn't do the things I wanted that I always felt I would.
* that I will feel guilt for all the things I could have done in the world. or feel bad for the bad things I did.
those are the reasons I am afraid of death I feel I need a spiritual perspective on these. i dont want to fear these things. every night I go to sleep and think this is it, hope I dont die in my sleep.
No one can relieve your death anxieties but you and even then you can only come to terms with them rather that removing them.
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- John Baines
Edited by Icelander (06/29/10 03:35 PM)
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Re: can you ease my fear of death [Re: percy]
#12823230 - 06/29/10 02:25 PM (2 years, 11 months ago) |
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Quote:
percy said:
I know I shouldn't fear death but some things about make me feel really sad / scared.
* like how sad my GF, and dog, and family would be if I died.
* that all the goals I had would never come true, so I couldn't do the things I wanted that I always felt I would.
* that I will feel guilt for all the things I could have done in the world. or feel bad for the bad things I did.
those are the reasons I am afraid of death I feel I need a spiritual perspective on these. i dont want to fear these things. every night I go to sleep and think this is it, hope I dont die in my sleep.
Let me ask you this. Do you ever remember before your birth? 
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Re: can you ease my fear of death [Re: Sadhguru]
#12823693 - 06/29/10 04:03 PM (2 years, 11 months ago) |
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In eternity there are no goals, only process.
For in an infinite universe even when you reach one goal another will just be created. You if need to meet all of your goals to make you happy you will always be dissatisfied. Instead exist in the now, which is always in flux. Goals are good to create change, but it can be the act of change, not the results that make you happy. Every inch forward along the process is call for celebration, because in eternity there will be no end.
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Re: can you ease my fear of death [Re: Sadhguru]
#12826855 - 06/30/10 02:09 AM (2 years, 11 months ago) |
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now im scared we have to live as every living thing in the universe the scale is too big for my mind to fathom and i dont like how savage the world is with insects, animals, violence that if im living through this human then 'im' also insects too if that makes sense, only now they are THEM, until theyre me in another life
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Re: can you ease my fear of death [Re: Simulacra541]
#12826863 - 06/30/10 02:12 AM (2 years, 11 months ago) |
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i dunno lots of little pieces but no one overriding thing, not even love
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Re: can you ease my fear of death [Re: The Chronic]
#12826868 - 06/30/10 02:14 AM (2 years, 11 months ago) |
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thanks this is the kind of stuff that makes me have less fear of death
life is sooooooo weird man
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Re: can you ease my fear of death [Re: percy]
#12827065 - 06/30/10 03:34 AM (2 years, 11 months ago) |
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Don't worry about living as every thing in the universe, your completely right, thats too big of a scope to live on. Meditation would help you out a lot. Go sit quietly, use a candle if this is your first time and put it out in front of you. Sit and gaze at it while noticing the air coming in and out through your nose... in and out... over and over. No need to force the breath, let it rest at its natural rhythm but be conscious of every single breath.
Practice this daily and you'll begin to feel a lot more comfortable with life. And you'll be helping yourself out, you can come to a lot of profound realizations about the nature of things doing this.
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Re: can you ease my fear of death [Re: percy]
#12827204 - 06/30/10 04:52 AM (2 years, 11 months ago) |
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Quote:
percy said:
I know I shouldn't fear death but some things about make me feel really sad / scared.
* like how sad my GF, and dog, and family would be if I died.
* that all the goals I had would never come true, so I couldn't do the things I wanted that I always felt I would.
* that I will feel guilt for all the things I could have done in the world. or feel bad for the bad things I did.
those are the reasons I am afraid of death I feel I need a spiritual perspective on these. i dont want to fear these things. every night I go to sleep and think this is it, hope I dont die in my sleep.
Fear of death is the opposite reaction of the birth experience which is by many considered to be a traumatic one. Contrary to this , people with near death experiences usually report a pleasant time.
I reckon dying is like taking the ultimate shit.
A huge release , like exhaling after holding your breath for a long time.
Like realizing that you just got punk'd 
as far as your worry for loved ones .. just think about how you would react if one them passed.
I reckon you wouldn't feel like they let you down , so why get caught up in thoughts that they would ?
Thangs go on , just like they always do and people learn to accept change.
Life doesn't belong to you.
I think that death .. is one constant reminder of that.
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They are derived from an acute mental illness , from which i am forced to lie compulsively.
I have never induced any kind of mind altering substance in my life and i have no intentions whatsoever of doing anything illegal.
If I have ever suggested such a thing it would have most likely been , due to my personality disorder and i probably do not remember it at all..
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Re: can you ease my fear of death [Re: jivJaN]
#12827229 - 06/30/10 05:08 AM (2 years, 11 months ago) |
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The sky is deep, the sky is dark,
The light of stars is so damn stark.
When I look up, I fill with fear.
If all we have is what lies here,
this lonely world, this troubled place,
then cold dead stars and empty space...
Well, I see no reason to persevere,
no reason to laugh or shed a tear,
no reason to sleep or ever to wake,
no promises to keep, and none to make.
And so at night I still raise my eyes
to study the clear but mysterious skies--
that arch above us, as cold as stone.
Are you there, God? Are we alone?
--The book of Counted Sorrows
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You're gonna die no matter what
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