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OfflineMaverick
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It's been 6 years since I've talked to her.
    #12402146 - 04/16/10 04:31 AM (13 years, 11 months ago)

Hey guys, I need some help here.  Maybe this is some drunken desperation, but I'm trying to work up the courage to talk to an ex who broke up with me about 6 years ago, back when I was 18.  I took it bad, got depressed, suicidal, did all the wrong shit and pushed her away as far as anyone could.

I know it's dumb to try to get in contact with her, however I want to see how she is.  I found her on facebook, replying to something I replied to.  I don't know if that meant she wants to talk or at least not avoid contact.  I didn't push my depression on her too much, mostly on myself and my 'rents, she didn't know about half the stuff I did to myself. 

The question is, how do I start a conversation?  How do I explain that I've grown up, that I'm no longer who I was, not that I want anything to do with her, but I do want her to still sometimes communicate.

Help please.

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Re: It's been 6 years since I've talked to her. [Re: Maverick]
    #12402153 - 04/16/10 04:38 AM (13 years, 11 months ago)

Send her a message without any weird shit in it. Like "Hey, it's been a while since I've heard from you, how is everything?" Don't explain you've grown up, show her.


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Re: It's been 6 years since I've talked to her. [Re: bossocto]
    #12402222 - 04/16/10 05:38 AM (13 years, 11 months ago)

I dunno man. Just leave it be. It's all in the past and all. The wondering will subside. No need for awkwardness.

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Re: It's been 6 years since I've talked to her. [Re: bossocto] * 1
    #12402241 - 04/16/10 05:56 AM (13 years, 11 months ago)

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bossocto said:
Send her a message without any weird shit in it. Like "Hey, it's been a while since I've heard from you, how is everything?" Don't explain you've grown up, show her.




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Re: It's been 6 years since I've talked to her. [Re: Maverick]
    #12403488 - 04/16/10 12:20 PM (13 years, 11 months ago)

First of all, don't explain anything to her.  Say the usually "Hey Hi Hello there.. " then if she agrees to meet up just show her you're different.  It won't come across well if you call her up and be like, "I'm not like I was before I promise!"  :lol:

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Re: It's been 6 years since I've talked to her. [Re: Newbie]
    #12403503 - 04/16/10 12:23 PM (13 years, 11 months ago)

I don't want to meet up with her.  I just wanted to say hello.  But I was drunk.  Hence the reason I wanted to say hello.

I just said "Hey waht's up?  Been ages since we've chatted.  Hope life's going good.  Peace"

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Re: It's been 6 years since I've talked to her. [Re: Maverick]
    #12403526 - 04/16/10 12:28 PM (13 years, 11 months ago)

That'll do just fine.  :thumbup:

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Re: It's been 6 years since I've talked to her. [Re: Maverick]
    #12403534 - 04/16/10 12:30 PM (13 years, 11 months ago)

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DRTMaverick said:
I don't want to meet up with her.  I just wanted to say hello.  But I was drunk.  Hence the reason I wanted to say hello.

I just said "Hey waht's up?  Been ages since we've chatted.  Hope life's going good.  Peace"


Leave her be this will just set you back and bring back negative feelings. Move on completely.


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Re: It's been 6 years since I've talked to her. [Re: koraks]
    #12403556 - 04/16/10 12:33 PM (13 years, 11 months ago)

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koraks said:
I dunno man. Just leave it be. It's all in the past and all. The wondering will subside. No need for awkwardness.




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Re: It's been 6 years since I've talked to her. [Re: Maverick]
    #12403578 - 04/16/10 12:36 PM (13 years, 11 months ago)

Dude, that would be majorly dumb to contact her. Don't be that guy man, don't be that guy. Let it go bra... there's plenty of vagina walking around ripe for the plucking.


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Re: It's been 6 years since I've talked to her. [Re: Sprezzatura]
    #12403635 - 04/16/10 12:46 PM (13 years, 11 months ago)

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Sprezzatura said:
Dude, that would be majorly dumb to contact her. Don't be that guy man, don't be that guy. Let it go bra... there's plenty of vagina walking around ripe for the plucking.




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Re: It's been 6 years since I've talked to her. [Re: Meat_hod]
    #12403667 - 04/16/10 12:52 PM (13 years, 11 months ago)

That attachment sure is bringing you alot of suffering; and what that guy quoted ^

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Re: It's been 6 years since I've talked to her. [Re: misfitdeviate]
    #12403698 - 04/16/10 12:58 PM (13 years, 11 months ago)

no attachment = no suffering.


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Re: It's been 6 years since I've talked to her. [Re: Psy Baba]
    #12403744 - 04/16/10 01:10 PM (13 years, 11 months ago)

forget about it


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Re: It's been 6 years since I've talked to her. [Re: Maverick]
    #12403745 - 04/16/10 01:11 PM (13 years, 11 months ago)

i am nastydhl and i approve of the last 6 posts....

so let it goooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo


:POOF:

gone!



shit man. your RP reeks of trying to prove your new and improved self to this girl...that will NOT end up well...and the fact that you still want to prove yourself to this girl proves to me that you have in fact not changed or moved on



edit: but i believe when we are trying to prove things to others we are just indirectly trying to prove things to our selves...so  be strong and independent and prove your doubting wrong...check that, ignore your doubting and just let go :grin:


(have i been talking out of my ass here?)

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Re: It's been 6 years since I've talked to her. [Re: Psy Baba]
    #12403750 - 04/16/10 01:11 PM (13 years, 11 months ago)

Quote:

DuNeRaVeR said:
no attachment = no suffering.




And no fun. No matter how enlightened you are you have to entangle yourself sometimes. Get lost in the world. It's why you're here in the first place.

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Re: It's been 6 years since I've talked to her. [Re: koppie]
    #12403765 - 04/16/10 01:14 PM (13 years, 11 months ago)

Quote:

koppie said:
Quote:

DuNeRaVeR said:
no attachment = no suffering.




And no fun. No matter how enlightened you are you have to entangle yourself sometimes. Get lost in the world. It's why you're here in the first place.





you don't have to be attached to have fun

its WAYYYYY more fucking fun to not be attached at all. imo, no contest. attachment is not fun lol

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Re: It's been 6 years since I've talked to her. [Re: koppie]
    #12403804 - 04/16/10 01:22 PM (13 years, 11 months ago)

Quote:

koppie said:
Quote:

DuNeRaVeR said:
no attachment = no suffering.




And no fun. No matter how enlightened you are you have to entangle yourself sometimes. Get lost in the world. It's why you're here in the first place.




You can enjoy any pleasure of this earth without being attached to it, but I do understand where you are coming from and agree.  Without attachment, we would not be who we are.  in order to exist within society, there must be a little.


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Re: It's been 6 years since I've talked to her. [Re: NastyDHL]
    #12403805 - 04/16/10 01:22 PM (13 years, 11 months ago)

Yeah let her go dude. It's been too long and it's probably over for you two.

And yeah attachment sucks unless you are mutually attached for the right reasons.


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