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 Sometimes, I become SEVERELY depressed when I think about other peoples' lives... 
#11284129 - 10/20/09 12:13 PM (2 years, 3 months ago) |
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....especially the lives of my immediate family members. I'll feel like everyone is completely insane, out of their minds, totally retarded, etc., and just being aware of this point of view strikes a very tender nerve in my heart. 
Can anyone else relate? I could write more on this....
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 GreenMachine
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 Re: Sometimes, I become SEVERELY depressed when I think about other peoples' lives... [Re: Anonymous #1]
#11284170 - 10/20/09 12:17 PM (2 years, 3 months ago) |
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just remember what Bobby McFerrin said
Dont worry, Be happy
In every life we have some trouble but when you worry you make it double
Dont worry, be happy
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Re: Sometimes, I become SEVERELY depressed when I think about other peoples' lives... [Re: Anonymous #1]
#11284171 - 10/20/09 12:17 PM (2 years, 3 months ago) |
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I do know what you mean, I feel like there's too many people in the world for everyone to be happy. Bigger population = more problems in the world.
 I know exactly what you mean.
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Re: Sometimes, I become SEVERELY depressed when I think about other peoples' lives... [Re: PMasterPoo]
#11284329 - 10/20/09 12:42 PM (2 years, 3 months ago) |
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It sucks, I wish that everything is alright for everyone.
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Re: Sometimes, I become SEVERELY depressed when I think about other peoples' lives... [Re: Anonymous #1]
#11284684 - 10/20/09 01:32 PM (2 years, 3 months ago) |
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The only thing stopping anyone from being happy all the time is themselves. Perception yields mood, which yields quality of life. Control your own mind, and you control your happiness.
Strength.
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Re: Sometimes, I become SEVERELY depressed when I think about other peoples' lives... [Re: meams]
#11285439 - 10/20/09 03:15 PM (2 years, 3 months ago) |
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That is a very good point meams.
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Re: Sometimes, I become SEVERELY depressed when I think about other peoples' lives... [Re: Anonymous #1]
#11285849 - 10/20/09 04:13 PM (2 years, 3 months ago) |
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you're an empath.
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Re: Sometimes, I become SEVERELY depressed when I think about other peoples' lives... [Re: Anonymous #1]
#11286174 - 10/20/09 05:07 PM (2 years, 3 months ago) |
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SEVERELY?
As in you end up commited to a hospital or try to kill yourself?
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Re: Sometimes, I become SEVERELY depressed when I think about other peoples' lives... [Re: beneath]
#11286411 - 10/20/09 05:41 PM (2 years, 3 months ago) |
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What helps me when I get sad or upset about the madness of people around me is I do neti. Neti is a hindu term for taking water in cupped hands and snorting it up your nose.
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Re: Sometimes, I become SEVERELY depressed when I think about other peoples' lives... [Re: lines]
#11286428 - 10/20/09 05:43 PM (2 years, 3 months ago) |
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neti pot
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Re: Sometimes, I become SEVERELY depressed when I think about other peoples' lives... [Re: lines]
#11292723 - 10/21/09 01:56 PM (2 years, 3 months ago) |
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lol
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Well I try my best to be just like I am, but everybody wants you to be just like them. -- Bob Dylan   fireworks_god said:It's one thing to simply enjoy a style of life that one enjoys, but it's another thing altogether to refer to another person's choice as "wrong" or to rationalize their behavior as being pathological or resulting from some sort of inadequacy or failing so as to create a sense of superiority or separation as yet another projection of a personal fear or control issue.
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Re: Sometimes, I become SEVERELY depressed when I think about other peoples' lives... [Re: Anonymous #1]
#11294321 - 10/21/09 05:45 PM (2 years, 3 months ago) |
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life is basically an act of nature like pond scum or photo synthesis,anything can happen and when humans dont develop their minds all manner of fucked up situations occur
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Re: Sometimes, I become SEVERELY depressed when I think about other peoples' lives... [Re: 5150]
#11294526 - 10/21/09 06:13 PM (2 years, 3 months ago) |
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I know what you mean OP.
Have you ever sat in your car in a parking lot of say, Wal-mart or K-mart and just observed how sad and/or mean everyone looks? why isn't anyone genuinely smiling and happy anymore?
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Re: Sometimes, I become SEVERELY depressed when I think about other peoples' lives... [Re: Darkestone]
#11294567 - 10/21/09 06:18 PM (2 years, 3 months ago) |
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we're on the cusp of 2012
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Re: Sometimes, I become SEVERELY depressed when I think about other peoples' lives... [Re: Darkestone]
#11294726 - 10/21/09 06:38 PM (2 years, 3 months ago) |
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Quote:
Darkestone said:
I know what you mean OP.
Have you ever sat in your car in a parking lot of say, Wal-mart or K-mart and just observed how sad and/or mean everyone looks? why isn't anyone genuinely smiling and happy anymore?
That's ridiculous. Your city can't be so different from mine. People smile all the time: kids giggle, parents crack up at their antics, partners hold hands affectionately, seniors run into old friends (pun intended!), etc.
I wouldn't judge the populace's general attitudes based on mundane shopping trips, either. Family men and women shopping after work/chores/whatever -- tired, and probably hungry around all that food! -- aren't the fairest sample of Westerners.
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Re: Sometimes, I become SEVERELY depressed when I think about other peoples' lives... [Re: Cameron]
#11296565 - 10/21/09 10:16 PM (2 years, 3 months ago) |
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Quote:
Cameron said:
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Darkestone said:
I know what you mean OP.
Have you ever sat in your car in a parking lot of say, Wal-mart or K-mart and just observed how sad and/or mean everyone looks? why isn't anyone genuinely smiling and happy anymore?
That's ridiculous. Your city can't be so different from mine. People smile all the time: kids giggle, parents crack up at their antics, partners hold hands affectionately, seniors run into old friends (pun intended!), etc.
I wouldn't judge the populace's general attitudes based on mundane shopping trips, either. Family men and women shopping after work/chores/whatever -- tired, and probably hungry around all that food! -- aren't the fairest sample of Westerners.
Maybe "genuinely happy" is different than being temporarily happy from an adrenaline shot of "mall hunting" or being excited by material possession?? Maybe This kind of happiness is a glow that emits from the inside?? Maybe this is the kind of things this person speaks of? A kind of smile and glow that you take with you to Hell mart or where ever else you go.
People shopping at wal mart are the average american. So this would, i think be a good place to observe the culture. Just like you might go to an out door market place in vietnam to observe their culture??
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Re: Sometimes, I become SEVERELY depressed when I think about other peoples' lives... [Re: Hesterzjester]
#11297520 - 10/22/09 02:15 AM (2 years, 3 months ago) |
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The point everyone has missed in this thread, is:
Don't think about anyone live's, unless you are going to contribute something directly to them. Focus on yourself.
I used to be bummed + i still am sort of, but i try and celebrate the polarity, and at least ... accept the shit in my society. It motivates me towards abandoning a society with twisted morals.
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Re: Sometimes, I become SEVERELY depressed when I think about other peoples' lives... [Re: PDU]
#11302213 - 10/22/09 06:49 PM (2 years, 3 months ago) |
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I live in a house with a mother figure who was raised by an abusive alcoholic. She still has much baggage and is very pessimistic and verbally/emotionally abusive. The pessimism is contagious to the other family living with her and the abuse has done lasting damage to her children (ex. one 40 year old who has never lived away from her parent's home).
It has been years since I've had a conversation with this lady that didn't end in an argument. She has control issues and has to go out of her way to shut others' perspectives down no matter how illogical she is thinking. The only people she will stand by is conservative media (entertainers) and "Christians".
It's depressed me on and off my whole life, as it has dramatically affected my relationships with people who should be my supports (friends included) and at times made me question my self worth when I was a child. I had an especially rough time after a bad trip centered around the situation.
Through the storm, I learned that they are letting their issues control them, to just overlook them, and concentrate on bettering myself.
Edited by Amber Trichome (10/22/09 06:58 PM)
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Re: Sometimes, I become SEVERELY depressed when I think about other peoples' lives... [Re: Amber Trichome]
#11304707 - 10/23/09 06:28 AM (2 years, 3 months ago) |
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^^^I was raised in a very similar situation. Criticism non-stop. Now that I am grown and gone and finally happy with myself, I am trying to help my 14 year old sister realize that she isn't a fat, lazy, stupid, vain teenager. She is a beautiful, bright, soulful girl with a big heart.
Even more-so, I am trying to get her to stop listening to everyone else and find her own self and her own path.
I just ignore, pray for, and try to help my mother now. She can get so confused. Example: I have actually had to sit and listen while she verbally bashed a family in the church she goes to b/c "you know they are the worst family in the church when it comes to gossiping. Glad I am not that bad." Talk about irony?
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Re: Sometimes, I become SEVERELY depressed when I think about other peoples' lives... [Re: Darkestone]
#11306792 - 10/23/09 01:56 PM (2 years, 3 months ago) |
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Maybe because of the population boom, many people have subconsciously opted to become nothing more than walking bags of fertilizer. 
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Re: Sometimes, I become SEVERELY depressed when I think about other peoples' lives... [Re: LysergicLeopard]
#11316809 - 10/25/09 04:31 AM (2 years, 3 months ago) |
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Yeah I have a deep useless sense of responsibility - which would be useful if god existed....but since there is no reward for helping out people who seem to but hurt me, then I must opt out because god cant punish if he doesnt exist.
I think thats probally why i feel bad for people, to prove that I am a good person in gods eyes....I still have a strong subconcious belief in god...yeah, beliefs are like rocks some of them are very very difficult to move and some shatter at the thought of movement....sadly, most of the ones that shatter at the sight, are the ones we like and the ones we dont usually are the difficult ones.
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Re: Sometimes, I become SEVERELY depressed when I think about other peoples' lives... [Re: AlphaFalfa]
#11323143 - 10/26/09 08:04 AM (2 years, 3 months ago) |
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i have a distaste for the majority of the population, lots of misery and games out there and i have had tonnes of jobs to back this up.
it became much more apparent after frequent psychedelic and pot use. now i work alone and away from the contagious disease that is misery and things have changed drastically for the good. i do try to accept it though and not judge others.
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Re: Sometimes, I become SEVERELY depressed when I think about other peoples' lives... [Re: deranger]
#11323227 - 10/26/09 08:36 AM (2 years, 3 months ago) |
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what do u do for a living?
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Re: Sometimes, I become SEVERELY depressed when I think about other peoples' lives... [Re: dr_gonz]
#11323249 - 10/26/09 08:43 AM (2 years, 3 months ago) |
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web conference operator for acttel.com through contractxchange.com
good hours and pays hourly 
getting my class 1 soon though.
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Re: Sometimes, I become SEVERELY depressed when I think about other peoples' lives... [Re: Anonymous #1]
#11336191 - 10/28/09 12:45 AM (2 years, 3 months ago) |
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I can absolutely relate to this. I always look at other people's lives with disappointment. I don't mean to come off judgmental. I just find it very difficult to understand how people fall into what I can only perceive as boring, meaningless lives. I try to encourage people to chase their dreams, do something they want to do. I see them having doubt in themselves or even worse, lacking any real dreams or ambition. As if they never had any high hopes for themselves in the first place. Lately it's really been driving me crazy to the point where I have isolated myself from people who I see as habitually stuck in life. I feel compelled to grab them by the shoulders and shake them and tell them to go do something they love.
I can only imagine this trend is more common when you grow up in less affluent areas. Many of my friend's and coworkers parents were high school dropouts and the like. The blue collar nature of the local economy allowed them to live reasonably comfortably without any education or general struggle to succeed. Most children set the bar just above what their parents achieved, so when a kid grows up in a home where his father was a high school dropout the child sets low standards for himself. This is what is wrong with this country as a whole. People have settled in to mediocrity and apathy because they are following the generation before them.
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Re: Sometimes, I become SEVERELY depressed when I think about other peoples' lives... [Re: PowerTrip]
#11338255 - 10/28/09 11:44 AM (2 years, 3 months ago) |
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I don't mean to come off judgmental.
Mission failed
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Re: Sometimes, I become SEVERELY depressed when I think about other peoples' lives... [Re: Cameron]
#11341148 - 10/28/09 06:26 PM (2 years, 3 months ago) |
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Don't think about other people's lives, it's just a game. Everything is going to be just fine. Most people suffer because they don't use their intelligence.
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joseph campbell
For, behold, the kingdom of God is within you.
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Re: Sometimes, I become SEVERELY depressed when I think about other peoples' lives... [Re: Cameron]
#11343245 - 10/29/09 12:31 AM (2 years, 3 months ago) |
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Cameron said:
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I don't mean to come off judgmental.
Mission failed
You try working with countless people who spend the entire day complaining about their lives. They hate their job, they hate their pay, they hate their life.. You offer them encouragement and all they do is shoot it down. "Go to college? Move somewhere else? No, not me. I'd never be able to." It's draining to be around people like this every day.
I've given up. It seems people either have the innate drive to do something significant, or they are destined to a life of mediocrity and boredom.
One of my closer friends at work today told me he was starting to hate the job. I told him good, he's finally getting to the point where he is willing to leave it to go after something he really wants.
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Re: Sometimes, I become SEVERELY depressed when I think about other peoples' lives... [Re: PowerTrip]
#11344965 - 10/29/09 11:30 AM (2 years, 3 months ago) |
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Redefine significant and successful. Find freedom. Discover true peace.
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Re: Sometimes, I become SEVERELY depressed when I think about other peoples' lives... [Re: rebus_minus]
#11346617 - 10/29/09 03:56 PM (2 years, 3 months ago) |
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Thanks for all the advice/replies, guys, feel free to continue on with this discussion; I'll ad my own input later on.
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Cameron
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Re: Sometimes, I become SEVERELY depressed when I think about other peoples' lives... [Re: PowerTrip]
#11351315 - 10/30/09 10:48 AM (2 years, 3 months ago) |
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You try working with countless people who spend the entire day complaining about their lives. They hate their job, they hate their pay, they hate their life.. You offer them encouragement and all they do is shoot it down. "Go to college? Move somewhere else? No, not me. I'd never be able to." It's draining to be around people like this every day.
I've given up. It seems people either have the innate drive to do something significant, or they are destined to a life of mediocrity and boredom.
One of my closer friends at work today told me he was starting to hate the job. I told him good, he's finally getting to the point where he is willing to leave it to go after something he really wants.
I take it back. You seem genuinely concerned for those poor souls. 
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Re: Sometimes, I become SEVERELY depressed when I think about other peoples' lives... [Re: Cameron]
#11355767 - 10/31/09 02:06 AM (2 years, 3 months ago) |
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Cameron said:I take it back. You seem genuinely concerned for those poor souls.
I make no apologies. Many people aren't aware of it but negative moods and apathy are contagious.
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Re: Sometimes, I become SEVERELY depressed when I think about other peoples' lives... [Re: Anonymous #1]
#11356801 - 10/31/09 09:43 AM (2 years, 3 months ago) |
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Quote:
Anonymous said:
....especially the lives of my immediate family members. I'll feel like everyone is completely insane, out of their minds, totally retarded, etc., and just being aware of this point of view strikes a very tender nerve in my heart.
Can anyone else relate? I could write more on this....
I know how you feel man. I have been feeling like that a lot lately. Almost constantly actually. Just seeing my parents makes me insanely depressed. Its so sad that people let themselves get like that. I am depressed but also scared that it could happen to me. I don't have much else to say but you aren't alone.
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Re: Sometimes, I become SEVERELY depressed when I think about other peoples' lives... [Re: Realized]
#11366460 - 11/01/09 10:59 PM (2 years, 3 months ago) |
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Don't get depressed, fuckers. We're all in this Together. Differences of a wide scope occur. Think of the happiest human at this moment and perhaps the one that is hungry and can't find food to hunt, plus they have a terminal illness and very little energy to go hunt.
That or don't think about it at all.
If you are going to think about anything seriously - anything at all - spend at least as much time contemplating how to improve or resolve the scenario and get involved in that process.
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Re: Sometimes, I become SEVERELY depressed when I think about other peoples' lives... [Re: World Spirit]
#11378226 - 11/03/09 03:25 PM (2 years, 3 months ago) |
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I wish I could manipulate people more but I have this pre-conditioned drive to be a 'good' person and it stems from my religious upbringing.
People in general, are ridiculously ignorant. They lack vital information to experience satisfaction.
I honestly, just get into the game, even with the intent that I will have to be deceptive and try to twirk it along the way, even if its just for a few moments, and it goes away again.
Thats basically all that is left, other than that I really have a strong desire not to interact with people and on my leisure time I stay away.
Imagine the mind a person who uses their leisure to intract with people AND works all day with people! WOW. What a motherfucking disaster.
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