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MushroomTrip said:
First off, I really don't see the difference between having sex with her and spending lots of time together, enjoying her company and stuff, and "having a relationship".

I don't think it's healthy to think that you are using her or she is using you, since both of you are in this together out of your own will. I'd advise you to think about why you feel so terrible and then act accordingly. Maybe you need to talk to her and tell her where you're standing and what you do (and don't) feel; also I would suggest that you reflect upon the why you need someone to "fill" the void, be it either her, or other friends of yours, and work on yourself in such a manner that you don't need anyone to make you feel good. Until you learn to feel good with yourself, your happiness will always be dependent on outside circumstances and other people, and why would you want that. You will also become a much more pleasant company when you will feel comfortable with yourself.

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MushroomTrip said:
The reason why I said that you might not feel comfortable with yourself was because you said that you needed her company because all your friends are out of town and you feel lonely. Feeling lonely point toward having some problems when it comes to dealing and coping with being alone, which in extent turns into loneliness.
Also, I think that it's a good idea to become honest with her and tell her exactly your thoughts because you have nothing to feel guilty about, since she is a responsible person and nobody dragged into having sex with you and hanging out. Becoming honest with her might also help you into relieving some other anxieties that you have.

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dill705 said:
~dill's girlfriend~

Girls are not always honest with how they feel;
if you tell her that you don't want a relationship
she might say the same because she thinks there is potential {if she wants one},
she might be afraid to break it off.

Or she might just want to have a friend with benefits kinda thing
{girls are gay and don't always say what is on their mind}

Honestly, feeling lonely is normal;
humans are naturally social creatures.
We want to be around other humans to interact and have fun.
I would suggest maybe making a few other friends
if you feel like you are leading this girl on.
Maybe you could go visit some of your other friends
at school every couple of weekends or something.
But making new friends is always good! 

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Girls are not always honest with how they feel;
if you tell her that you don't want a relationship
she might say the same because she thinks there is potential {if she wants one},
she might be afraid to break it off.

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Platinum said:
And based on where this thread is going, definitely not a P&S thread... a mod can move it if they want.

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dill705 said:
~dill's girlfriend~

Girls are not always honest with how they feel;
if you tell her that you don't want a relationship
she might say the same because she thinks there is potential {if she wants one},
she might be afraid to break it off.

Or she might just want to have a friend with benefits kinda thing
{girls are gay and don't always say what is on their mind}

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MushroomTrip said:

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dill705 said:
~dill's girlfriend~

Girls are not always honest with how they feel;
if you tell her that you don't want a relationship
she might say the same because she thinks there is potential {if she wants one},
she might be afraid to break it off.

Or she might just want to have a friend with benefits kinda thing
{girls are gay and don't always say what is on their mind}

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Really? And may I ask, how in the world are you talking for all the girls? Don't you think you're making a horrible and misleading over-generalization?
It might be true that some girls lie about their intention, as well as some boys do. No reason to say that this shit applies for all the girls out there. Besides, I don't think it is a good advise to tell someone that they might be taking advantage of the girl they're dating just because she might have personal issues about telling the truth. Even if she was lying, the one that obviously has to change their behavior is her, not him.

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