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 energizerbuntree
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 ma mommy caught me smoking herb... again... 
#8554210 - 06/23/08 02:18 PM (4 years, 10 months ago) |
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that happened a few days ago, its happend many times since i turned 14 (im almost 19 now) and usually i would just agree to stop or whatever, but after awhile its pretty much understood im not going to stop.
anyways, my moms really fearful about weed and drugs like alota parents, and even though i disagree with some of her opinions im not gonna risk ruining our relationship or getting kicked out. - so i agreed to her to not smoke in the house anymore and to not smoke alone.
im seriously plannign on doing this (save maybe the rare solo smoke now and again), but now shes asking me why this time is any different. and expects an answer. the thing is ive bullshitted so much that i cant think of any new things to say that i havent already
so basically im just asking for some suggestions on what to say and how to handle the situation cause im kind of clueless and hate dealing with this
thanks in advance, 
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Justice_Fish
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 Re: ma mommy caught me smoking herb... again... [Re: energizerbuntree]
#8554325 - 06/23/08 02:52 PM (4 years, 10 months ago) |
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Talk to her about the facts
OR
Move out
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energizerbuntree
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Re: ma mommy caught me smoking herb... again... [Re: Justice_Fish]
#8554368 - 06/23/08 03:01 PM (4 years, 10 months ago) |
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thanks for the reply
well the problem is she knows pretty much everything i told you, but she wants me to tell her why 'this time' im going to follow through. and i dont know what else to tell her.. its frustratin
and as for moving out, im waiting for my new job to start soon, so then ill be able to start planing for that, but im also going to uni and its big advantage saving money by staying home, i just dont want to have my time at home shitty and tense know what im sayin?
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energizerbuntree
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Re: ma mommy caught me smoking herb... again... [Re: energizerbuntree]
#8554380 - 06/23/08 03:03 PM (4 years, 10 months ago) |
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she has the impression that im hooked and going to ruin my life or something , and its hard to shake no matter what i inform her about
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Re: ma mommy caught me smoking herb... again... [Re: energizerbuntree]
#8554441 - 06/23/08 03:18 PM (4 years, 10 months ago) |
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Be honest and quit bullshitting or move. It's her house...her rules.
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Re: ma mommy caught me smoking herb...justin... [Re: Huehuecoyotl]
#8559658 - 06/24/08 09:31 PM (4 years, 10 months ago) |
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u have to be mature about the whole situation, dont lie and tell her your going to stop, teller that weeds keeps you from going crazy, that its keeps you in a consciousness stage. tell her how weed has helped millions and that its the people not the weed that fucks up. then tell her your the responsible type, that the only thing you'll ever touch is weed. you know shit like that. shit that comes from the heart.
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Cameron
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Re: ma mommy caught me smoking herb...justin... [Re: zZZz]
#8559960 - 06/24/08 10:33 PM (4 years, 10 months ago) |
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I wouldn't say that weed's 'keeping you from going crazy', because that makes it sound like you're hopelessly addicted and reliant on a drug to maintain your sanity. I would be honest, though. Honesty is the most important thing in your relationship. You can convince her that it's relatively harmless and that you can use it responsibly, but there's no way in Hell she'll listen if you continue to lie and deceive her.
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ComputerTekGuy
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Re: ma mommy caught me smoking herb...justin... [Re: Cameron]
#8561877 - 06/25/08 12:19 PM (4 years, 10 months ago) |
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"Be honest and quit bullshitting or move. It's her house...her rules. "
Smoke outside then, or at a friends house.
It's always hard following the rules when your young, because you want to explore life and yourself as a person, but people try holding you down with statements like the one above. I do agree with the "Quit bullshitting though", but be your own person at the same time. Just respect.
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Re: ma mommy caught me smoking herb...justin... [Re: ComputerTekGuy]
#8566227 - 06/26/08 01:09 PM (4 years, 10 months ago) |
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If your recreational activities interfere with your life, why risk it? Life comes first.
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Re: ma mommy caught me smoking herb...justin... [Re: 0192837465]
#8567071 - 06/26/08 04:31 PM (4 years, 10 months ago) |
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agreed. if you can do that kind of shit and still be productive, like have a job, and kick ass in school, then you should be able to talk with your mom about being able to do things you enjoy in life, like smoke weed. If not, then you shouldn't be smoking weed, cause its fuckin with your life.
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Re: ma mommy caught me smoking herb...justin... [Re: ComputerTekGuy]
#8567224 - 06/26/08 05:14 PM (4 years, 10 months ago) |
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because you want to explore life and yourself as a person
Exploring life at someone else's expense is rude.
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Re: ma mommy caught me smoking herb...justin... [Re: Huehuecoyotl]
#8568152 - 06/26/08 08:32 PM (4 years, 10 months ago) |
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Quote:
Huehuecoyotl said:
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because you want to explore life and yourself as a person
Exploring life at someone else's expense is rude.
Moralism may be counterproductive. It may be my interpretation of what you say, however, that is laced with such.
Failure to be open in communication with members of your family, particularly if you live in their abode, is likely to be counterproductive.
You have no obligation to follow any rule. The decision to do so or not will become clear with a comprehensive understanding of the situation and of each viewpoint. Although you may, with contemplation, elect to comply with a request, it is a choice that originates within you. If you simply try to comply because you feel it is "right" or that it is your duty, you will likely renege.
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Edited by WordlessNature (06/26/08 08:40 PM)
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Re: ma mommy caught me smoking herb...justin... [Re: WordlessNature]
#8568305 - 06/26/08 09:11 PM (4 years, 10 months ago) |
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You have no obligation to follow any rule
I agree with what you say. The owners of the house also have no obligation to put up with dishonesty and the squandering of their resources.
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Re: ma mommy caught me smoking herb...justin... [Re: Huehuecoyotl]
#8568971 - 06/26/08 11:50 PM (4 years, 10 months ago) |
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My mom was the same way. She used to call weed "dope" and I hated that. When I think of dope I think of heroin. I moved out. Problem solved. No use in lying to your mom unless she is really naive. She probably knows when your lying anyway.
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Re: ma mommy caught me smoking herb...justin... [Re: rick0909]
#8572247 - 06/27/08 09:44 PM (4 years, 10 months ago) |
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I have adult children and I sympathize. Many parents are paranoid of becoming negatively involved with the law, and some put a moral judgment on it. That is their freedom. I am fairly liberal about such matters, but my kids are mostly moved out anyway...except the youngest, but I don't need to police her drug use as she has no interest in it. The things that Dad likes just aren't cool.
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Re: ma mommy caught me smoking herb...justin... [Re: Huehuecoyotl]
#8572325 - 06/27/08 10:10 PM (4 years, 10 months ago) |
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Tell her that this time her requests are reasonable and make sense to you. If she straight refuses you from smoking it's hard for you to obey, but if she simply asks you not to smoke in the house than it is a rule you can easily follow while still toking up.
Just remind her that what she is asking this time is different and more fair?
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