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Icelander said:
And she has been the cause for me to change my life from negative to positive.

Is there a huge red flag smiley I can use here.

The change is illusionary and delusional.  We only change from within. Outside events do not save us from ourselves.

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1- Calling people delusional is kind of rude. I would say it borders on flaming. (don't worry though, I won't tell the mods ) 

2- Are you a psychologist, do you even know anything about modern psychology at all? Because according to studies what you say is completely bogus.

For example, there is clear documented evidence that your relations to your siblings determines your political views, that the culture you grow up in determines your religious views, that the nation you grow up in determines your level of happiness.

If you really believe the above go move to a cave somewhere and stop posting on shroomery forums. I mean it is rather silly to say you aren't effected/in need of society and then spend so much time participating in it. If people are really irrelevant to you, why are you deciding to be around them so often? There are few things more annoyingly inconsistent then a missionary egoist.

People effect each other all the time at a very fundamental level because we evolved to be social animals. As Veritas noted, I takes more then one village idiot to raise a child.

Or as Karl Popper put it:

"Before we as individuals are even conscious of our existence we have been profoundly influenced for a considerable time (since before birth) by our relationship to other individuals who have complicated histories, and are members of a society which has an infinitely more complicated and longer history than they do (and are members of it at a particular time and place in that history); and by the time we are able to make conscious choices we are already making use of categories in a language which has reached a particular degree of development through the lives of countless generations of human beings before us. . . . We are social creatures to the inmost centre of our being. The notion that one can begin anything at all from scratch, free from the past, or unindebted to others, could not conceivably be more wrong."

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FrenchSocialist said:
1- Calling people delusional is kind of rude. I would say it borders on flaming. (don't worry though, I won't tell the mods ) 

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bug said:
I know that I love her.  And she has been the cause for me to change my life from negative to positive.

I have struggled and made huge progress in ridding myself of jealousy, of fear of inadequacy, of accepting and even loving others unconditionally; I have struggled to turn language into water whereby I can gently nurture the flowers that I see sprouting everywhere around me.  I have done all this and it has been so hard and so wonderful.

Today I know in my heart that if you love someone you have to let them go.  I can never make someone love me, never make decisions for someone, and I am tired of my ego games trying to selfishly guide her toward me.  I am tired of being selfish and of longing to be un-selfish.  Today I will just be, dammit.  Happy 420.

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good for you. attachments, especially those which you have no control over, are not healthy. i used to be in your shoes, sort of am still. not sure if it will ever fade, perhaps hope cannot be killed 

good luck my friend

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fireworks_god said:
He stated that the change was delusional. He never referred to the person as being delusional,

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