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 Porn-induced erectile dysfunction support thread   3
#15821789 - 02/17/12 02:58 AM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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Hi.
I started a thread in the health & wellbeing forum but figured I should start one here because I did some reading thanks to another user here and have been blown away.
Some history; I'm mid-twenties. I consider myself to be reasonably healthy, moderate drinker (mostly weekends) and occasional drug user. I am moderately attractive, often complimented by girls, as stated in a lot of statements by guys in the following websites, they know a girl is attractive, they know they should be attracted to that girl, but they don't act or feel impulsive desires to pursue the girl because they don't feel the need to, porn has desensitised them to that aspect of their psychology where they seek out that reward from using porn. I suffered this problem constantly. I would gawk at girls in the street but feel no need to try to chat them up because of confidence issues arising from my continued use of porn, that and I just never 'felt the need', even times girls have offered me oppurtunities for sex, perfectly attractive girls which I found sexually appealing, I just couldn't bring myself to do it...
I have had one 'healthy' sexual relationship in my life, which ended a few years ago. Up until that girl I was pretty much a daily porn user. I never had many problems with that girl and we were both what i'd call happy sexually.
After that relationship ended I withdrew into pretty excessive porn use after a long mourning period and slowly edged into hardcore porn and a general dislike of women. I hated women and could see myself going on a slippery slope. I had a few casual encounters with girls, some were ok, others nasty but I felt really detached and was basically just mechanically fucking.
Again over time I was increasing my porn use.
I have been seeing this girl for about 6 months now, due to our jobs we don't see each other all that often and have only had sex maybe 10-15 times.
We have been friends for years and know each other really well, we get along great and I feel really comfortable around her. There are no issues really there. But most times we've had sex have been really hard, mostly from suffering erectile dysfunction. At first I thought it was just me being kind of nervous because I really really like this girl and was just getting in my head about it, over time it kept happening though. We've had a handful of romps which have been really good and she's reached orgasm and I've only suffered 'half-ED' (as in I haven't been fully hard) but it was still frustrating me.
I started coming up with reasons: I was drinking too much, I hadn't had sex for so long that I was just 'getting back into it', I was taking drugs, pre-workout supplements, diet, fitness and all these other reasons.
A few days ago I went to the doctor for an STI checkup and told him of my problem and he immediately gave me a script for viagra and cialis. He told me that the problem is '95% psychological' and not to worry about it. So I didn't think much else of it.
That night my girlfriend and I went out for tea, got drunk, came home and had sex, I had taken a cialis pill earlier that day. We fucked for about 2 hours but most of this I was only semi-hard. Still frustrating, but it was still fun.
Then in the other forum a guy mentioned porn and masturbation and posted a link
How I recovered from porn-related erectile dysfunction
The article basically opened my eyes and made me realise what the problem was.
The following article goes a lot into the brain chemistry of the problem and answers the questions a lot more in depth, and has blogs of people with the same problem who gave up porn and masturbation for a period of time to restore themselves to 'normal'. Basically, if you want a healthy sex life again, you have no other option. While ED treating drugs will address the problem with your penis, they will not address the problem with your brain, which is where the problem lies.
Your Brain on Porn
I encourage a lot of you guys to read these articles if you think you might have a problem, as I understand that a lot of users here might be of the 'nerdier'/'porn-savvy' demographic. I figured I'd share my story here and maybe trigger some of you other guys onto getting to the root of your problem (if you have any) and fixing it. I never thought that porn could be damaging my sex life but after reading these two articles it has all made a shit load of sense. I cannot stress enough how much this has opened my eyes. I am now on day 3 of no porn or masturbation... I am yet to see where I go from here as I will be seeing my girlfriend in a few days an no doubt it will be on the cards...
but again, please take time to look at the articles and maybe give yourself an insight into the damage you could be doing to yourself by habitually watching porn.
Edited by Anonymous (02/17/12 03:08 AM)
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 nooneman
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Re: Porn-induced erectile dysfunction support thread [Re: Anonymous #1]
#15821828 - 02/17/12 03:13 AM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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I've been watching massive amounts of porn since, well, ever, and I've always had great sex. Don't blame porn for your erectile dysfunction that has nothing to do with porn. Erectile dysfunction is a natural condition that has nothing to do with porn intake.
Tons and tons of people watch massive amounts of porn and have great sex lives, that's one of the reasons that there's so much porn on the internet.
Edited by nooneman (02/17/12 03:14 AM)
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Re: Porn-induced erectile dysfunction support thread [Re: nooneman] 2
#15821835 - 02/17/12 03:16 AM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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While what you say is true there are people who develop a porn addiction and problems.
Same way that many people can drink shitloads of alcohol all the time and never develop a problem but other people will fall into hardcore alcoholism.
If you think this doesn't apply to you then good for you and that's great that you don't have a problem, but to me this has made perfect sense and connected all the dots.
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Re: Porn-induced erectile dysfunction support thread [Re: nooneman] 1
#15821842 - 02/17/12 03:18 AM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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Quote:
nooneman said:
Erectile dysfunction is a natural condition that has nothing to do with porn intake.
take a look from here onwards in the article
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Re: Porn-induced erectile dysfunction support thread [Re: Anonymous #1] 1
#15829813 - 02/18/12 11:57 PM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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Thanks for the post.
I know I have this problem. But I got one more month until I do my withdraw.
Then I go to the Navy. Im quitting cold turkey.
After the Navy I plan to stick with it.
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Re: Porn-induced erectile dysfunction support thread [Re: XUL] 2
#15830756 - 02/19/12 06:32 AM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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Being locked up on a ship with lots of other seamen?
Doesn't sound like cold turkey to me :P
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Re: Porn-induced erectile dysfunction support thread [Re: Visionary Tools]
#15830874 - 02/19/12 08:15 AM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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Re: Porn-induced erectile dysfunction support thread [Re: 666 Sun]
#15831532 - 02/19/12 12:17 PM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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I fail to see any sort of problem with the porn. I don't think you can say that your feelings of hatred towards women are solely a result of porn. I don't think that you should need viagra or cialis in your mid 20s just because you are addicted to porn. What is wrong with porn again?
Start jerking off again or that girl is gonna have the run of your life until you cheat on her.
That article is ridiculous btw, the lengths people will go to talk themselves out of jerking off  Must be a survival thing
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Here’s a quotation from musician John Mayer,
"Internet pornography has absolutely changed my generation’s expectations. How could you be constantly synthesizing an orgasm based on dozens of shots? You’re looking for the one…out of 100 you swear is going to be the one you finish to, and you still don’t finish."
He has also said something about viewing 300 vaginas before rising from bed in the morning. That’s a lot of dopamine.
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Re: Porn-induced erectile dysfunction support thread [Re: moonrockmushy]
#15831550 - 02/19/12 12:23 PM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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Once a monkey starts masturbating it cannot stop.
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Re: Porn-induced erectile dysfunction support thread [Re: 666 Sun]
#15831605 - 02/19/12 12:34 PM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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Personally, I think porn can be unhealthy in many ways. But I still watch it. And I ALWAYS have a boner. I have never once in my short life been flaccid. Bwahahahaha
I don't have sex, like, ever, so I don't know if this is a problem, and I don't care. But when I beat it, I often times just use my imagination, or soft core nudie pics. According to that article, one of the "symptoms" is not being able to get off without hardcore porn videos. So I should be set. Once my date-rape set finally gets here from Japan, I'll be taut and horny like a real rapist should be.
But I honestly think you're kidding yourself if you think that porn isn't damaging. I don't see how it can't be. But who really gives a shit, all of our psyches are royally fucked from all this flashing media.
Edited by Anneji (02/19/12 12:47 PM)
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Re: Porn-induced erectile dysfunction support thread [Re: Anneji]
#15831673 - 02/19/12 12:52 PM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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By this same logic sex is damaging, except it produces babies. Our psyches are durable and elastic, some more than others.
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Re: Porn-induced erectile dysfunction support thread [Re: moonrockmushy]
#15831699 - 02/19/12 01:01 PM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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Quote:
moonrockmushy said:
By this same logic sex is damaging, except it produces babies. Our psyches are durable and elastic, some more than others.
...I fail to see what you mean. According to the article, excessive porn use results in decreased sexual function in men. Regular sex, in my estimation, doesn't/wouldn't. Sex is normal and healthy, watching porn 2 hours a day is neither (really, who watches that much porn? Even watching 2 hours of TV a day probably isn't healthy...)
But whatever.
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Re: Porn-induced erectile dysfunction support thread [Re: Anneji]
#15831771 - 02/19/12 01:23 PM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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Sex results in a decreased appetite for sex. It is your business who you want to get off with, and "regular sex" is about having babies.
Making a world full of babies that can't be taken care of is not healthy, masturbation is fun.
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Re: Porn-induced erectile dysfunction support thread [Re: moonrockmushy]
#15831783 - 02/19/12 01:26 PM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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Masturbation is a waste of life force. At least the energies are reabsorbed during sex. Stop lying to yourself.
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Re: Porn-induced erectile dysfunction support thread [Re: moonrockmushy]
#15831784 - 02/19/12 01:26 PM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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Quote:
moonrockmushy said:
Sex results in a decreased appetite for sex. It is your business who you want to get off with, and "regular sex" is about having babies.
Making a world full of babies that can't be taken care of is not healthy, masturbation is fun.
Haha, yeah, maybe it's a good thing that a large percentage of us are in a committed relationship with our laptops...
Lord knows there are enough babies.
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Re: Porn-induced erectile dysfunction support thread [Re: Visionary Tools]
#15831842 - 02/19/12 01:44 PM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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Quote:
Visionary Tools said:
Being locked up on a ship with lots of other seamen?
Doesn't sound like cold turkey to me :P
Nah. Its just reserve.
8 months of on land training and then I head back home.
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Re: Porn-induced erectile dysfunction support thread [Re: moonrockmushy] 1
#15831853 - 02/19/12 01:47 PM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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Quote:
moonrockmushy said:
By this same logic sex is damaging, except it produces babies. Our psyches are durable and elastic, some more than others.
Watching porn is much different than sex.
Did you read the article?
The guy was watching 4 porn windows at once. That is nothing like sex.
OP also stated that this affects some but not others.
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Re: Porn-induced erectile dysfunction support thread [Re: XUL]
#15831927 - 02/19/12 02:07 PM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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It is like a mushroom trip, some of us crave that stimulation, some people are better without. If you are unhappy jerking alone then stop and go find someone to have interpersonal sex with, but we all know this is easier said than done, sometimes it is not worth the trouble.
I think the problem is people expect their sex life to be exactly like they see in porn. The stuff OP is experiencing is fairly common, but there are alot of conclusions drawn about the causes here. I think people feel a need to justify their behavior, but as long as you don't intentionally hurt anyone that isn't necessary.
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Re: Porn-induced erectile dysfunction support thread [Re: moonrockmushy]
#15832018 - 02/19/12 02:33 PM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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It is not the persons "fault" it is genetics & the environment in which one is put in which forms how we "make decisions" in our life.
I don´t believe in free will (yet) because there is a whole lot we need to do until we can actually start creating something new.
Edited by 666 Sun (02/19/12 02:33 PM)
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Re: Porn-induced erectile dysfunction support thread [Re: 666 Sun]
#15834970 - 02/20/12 12:09 AM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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I can understand a lot of cynicism towards this matter but I think it's safe to say that if you don't suffer from it then you probably won't understand it.
For me this is the only logical answer to my problems, I have no problem whatsoever gaining or sustaining an erection while watching porn, but when it comes to being intimate with my girl I suffer big problems.
I can think of no other reason why that would be. This is all I have at the moment.
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