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 Chelseaburr
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 Tips for mending a broken heart... 
#15769205 - 02/06/12 06:23 PM (1 year, 3 months ago) |
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Recently got dumped last saturday.
I was with this kid for about 9 months.
I've lived with him for like 5 months.
My longest relationship ever.
/le sigh.
I feel so incomplete, especially seeing these couples all around this months, It's pretty upsetting to deal with, not going to lie.
I'm not sobbing and wallowing in self pity, because I am still young and etc, but, I sort of do need a bit of advice for distracting myself.
Thank you.
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 koraks
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 Re: Tips for mending a broken heart... [Re: Chelseaburr]
#15771407 - 02/07/12 01:21 AM (1 year, 3 months ago) |
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Distraction. Any kind will do. Loose yourself in work, school, etc.
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numonkei
Back! From thedigestive tractof dave theiguana!
Registered: 04/12/06
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Re: Tips for mending a broken heart... [Re: koraks]
#15771647 - 02/07/12 02:17 AM (1 year, 3 months ago) |
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koraks said:
Distraction. Any kind will do. Loose yourself in work, school, etc.
This. Preferably something constructive that will help you better self when you inevitably get to the other side.
I'd recommend against taking solace in substances. Though, personally, small amounts of benzos and ethanol combined with old Square games/Final Fantasy/Ect. did me wonders when still having to live with the woman who broke my heart.
I wish you the best. Things get better.
~Monk
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shroomnymph
big mamma
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Re: Tips for mending a broken heart... [Re: numonkei]
#15771793 - 02/07/12 02:54 AM (1 year, 3 months ago) |
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I know how it feels... I have been in a few relationships but the one person who i can't get over was only really a friend and lover.
We had sex the first day we met, we knew the worst of eachother and still enjoyed the company, he was my best friend for those 6 months, sleeping in the same bed for 3-4 nights a week usually, I held him while he cried one night after his friend freaked out on shrooms, I dressed up as a schoolgirl for him on his birthday, he was the first guy whose ass I ever fingered, the only guy who understood me and who I could talk to about psychological hangups, how perverted I am. I remember how glorious his skinny nakedness looked in the morning when he'd urinate off my roof.
But there were also bad times, times when he made me feel like shit, but I loved him even emptying the bottles of urine; he was too lazy to go to the bathroom.
It seemed like we were stuck in this cycle of lust-trust-love-betrayal-anger-forgiveness and we went through probably 4 of those cycles. After those 6 months, he was going to Europe to see his parents, and I was going to Asia for a month. We ended on a good note, not really having a formal goodbye, more like a casual "see you later".
And its been 6 months since he left, I haven't heard from him since, and I still think of him everyday. I think writing this out made me feel better about it and more accepting of it. Ive tried to get into a new relationship- a nice normal guy with a degree in philosophy, but I broke it off after 2 months, I'm obviously not ready for a serious relationship and also I couldn't believe he had never read any Huxley.
Anyways the main point is that I think CLOSURE is the most important thing to getting over someone. If you have it in your mind that the relationship is not over then you will hang on to it with hope. But if you know that its not going to happen then you will move on. I really need to get some closure on my shit.
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jvm
long strange trip
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Re: Tips for mending a broken heart... [Re: shroomnymph]
#15771910 - 02/07/12 03:31 AM (1 year, 3 months ago) |
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You won't be able to fully distract yourself from the hurt, as it will be lingering as long as it's not healed from. In my past relationships i've always been crushed, heart broken, distressed, and so on. I always found that examining myself in a different light, a loving light, helped me understand myself more as i detached myself from who i was recently with. We often become apart of someone when we are together and makes it difficult to truly understand how one feels inside and out in the heart. There's no escaping the pain. There's only yourself who can learn from the experience and take with what you will for future experiences. You can learn a lot from past relationships. Take the time to reflect and release in any way you can to let out the emotional stress and pain. You are loved, you always will be. Be patient and be kind to yourself.   
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numonkei
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Registered: 04/12/06
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Re: Tips for mending a broken heart... [Re: shroomnymph]
#15771934 - 02/07/12 03:39 AM (1 year, 3 months ago) |
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Quote:
shroomnymph said:
I know how it feels... I have been in a few relationships but the one person who i can't get over was only really a friend and lover.
We had sex the first day we met, we knew the worst of eachother and still enjoyed the company, he was my best friend for those 6 months, sleeping in the same bed for 3-4 nights a week usually, I held him while he cried one night after his friend freaked out on shrooms, I dressed up as a schoolgirl for him on his birthday, he was the first guy whose ass I ever fingered, the only guy who understood me and who I could talk to about psychological hangups, how perverted I am. I remember how glorious his skinny nakedness looked in the morning when he'd urinate off my roof.
But there were also bad times, times when he made me feel like shit, but I loved him even emptying the bottles of urine; he was too lazy to go to the bathroom.
It seemed like we were stuck in this cycle of lust-trust-love-betrayal-anger-forgiveness and we went through probably 4 of those cycles. After those 6 months, he was going to Europe to see his parents, and I was going to Asia for a month. We ended on a good note, not really having a formal goodbye, more like a casual "see you later".
And its been 6 months since he left, I haven't heard from him since, and I still think of him everyday. I think writing this out made me feel better about it and more accepting of it. Ive tried to get into a new relationship- a nice normal guy with a degree in philosophy, but I broke it off after 2 months, I'm obviously not ready for a serious relationship and also I couldn't believe he had never read any Huxley.
Anyways the main point is that I think CLOSURE is the most important thing to getting over someone. If you have it in your mind that the relationship is not over then you will hang on to it with hope. But if you know that its not going to happen then you will move on. I really need to get some closure on my shit.
Not to get too off topic, but what is it with dudes being too lazy to go piss in a toilet, or even a sink...even sober? Many of my friends have admitted to this. It's fucking sad, and a strong breakdown indication when our generation is too lazy to walk down the hall and pee in the middle of the night...
...I've only done it once, to help a friend pass a drug test. And once while unconscious on a couch, but that was many years ago and 30 drinks in.
~Monk
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