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 Calling a woman "sexy", "babe", or a nickname 
#15441372 - 11/29/11 08:09 PM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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So I've been experimenting with flirting a little, and thought I would share my findings with the men and women here in the shroomery. Being on xanax has helped me gain the guts to do things I otherwise wouldn't, but perhaps that has helped me in this experiment.
I have slipped in, at the right moment, "sexy", "babe", and nicknames that are closer to pet names in multiple situations with multiple women. I have found that by and large, they tend to love this and react very positively to it. Of course, there is a way to do it, and if you do it wrong, you risk coming across as a creeper...
Here is what I have found. Using these names VERY early on, such as just meeting, results in negative reactions. Using them out of nowhere also seems to bring about negative results...
But if you get a girl to laugh, and then refer to her as sexy or babe in a sentence (not standalone), I have noticed they tend to enjoy it! I mean women spend a lot of time trying to look sexy and if the compliment comes out in a genuine way, it both reinforces their self image and separates you from smply friend zone material.
I have found that a gradual workup is best, and after saying it once and not getting a bad response, its suddenly Ok to open up conversations or end them with sexy, babe, or pet name. I've had a few even start referring to me as "hot stuff" or handsome.
This is just a social experiment for me, and probably not breaking any ground, but I think some guys should get over their fears of comenting on a girl in a more than friendly way, provided you can make her laugh, make her happy, and brighten her day. I have also noticed that several girls don't seem used to this approach, making me think a lot of guys either do it wrong or not at all.
Thoughts??
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Re: Calling a woman "sexy", "babe", or a nickname [Re: Anonymous #1]
#15442162 - 11/29/11 10:38 PM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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I too slip in a little pet name every once in a while. The one I mostly use is doll. You just have to not come off creepy or too obsessed or some dumb shit. If you say something like "thanks doll" and give a good smile it'll usually earn you a positive response.
I've asked and gotten a few numbers after a brief conversation with a girl somewhere in which I called her a pet name. I don't know if it helped my case necessarily, but I've never had a negative response at least.
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 Amoeboid
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Re: Calling a woman "sexy", "babe", or a nickname [Re: Anonymous #1]
#15442227 - 11/29/11 10:50 PM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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I seem to be good at making girls laugh even when I'm not trying to. I think it's because I'm super awkward and they think it's cute or something. If I called a girl sexy in such a casual way as you are describing I'd probably fluster myself, get red in the face, and stutter something incomprehensible before making a hasty exit. Your advice is well taken though  . I might try it more often.
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Re: Calling a woman "sexy", "babe", or a nickname [Re: Amoeboid]
#15444390 - 11/30/11 01:14 PM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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some bitch calling me handsome
not in my life
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Re: Calling a woman "sexy", "babe", or a nickname [Re: Anonymous #1]
#15444436 - 11/30/11 01:27 PM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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I don't mind being called pet names, but I don't like using them so much myself. I have one (and only one) pet name for my gf that I use occasionally, and that's it.
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fbi365
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Re: Calling a woman "sexy", "babe", or a nickname [Re: koraks]
#15445126 - 11/30/11 03:52 PM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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It really depends on the girl. Some girls like it when used correctly, but some girls are uncomfortable with getting compliments. I know a girl (with whom I am intimate), who gets all weird when I tell her is gorgeous, or perfect, hot, a babe, sexy, or anything like that. Its really annoying because it makes flirting difficult, plus, sometimes I just like to say nice things to girls I like.
In terms of using this with girls you just meet, or are acquainted with. I have seen it work great when used by the right kind of guy. If you're that guy, go for it. If its overused, personally, I think its kind of sleazy, douchy, cheap, and pretty lame.
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Anonymous #1
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Re: Calling a woman "sexy", "babe", or a nickname [Re: fbi365]
#15446046 - 11/30/11 07:06 PM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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Seriously guys, doing this more and more now! Try it! You come off as confident. Just don't force it, let it hapen naturally. You'll find that one time after you make her laugh or improve her day where you can just say something like, "that's what I'm talking about, babe" or "you know it, sexy". Its so easy when you figure out how to use it in conversation with women. I am achieving virtually 100% success just by calling women sexy or babe at the right moments. Thing is, once you say it once, that box is already open. You can say it again in situations that you couldn't have said it beforehand without it being weird... such as a random "morning sexy" text or "how ya doin babe".
The trick is, don't be creepy about it. Have fun! It really is fun after all. You are doing what most other guys are not!
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Anonymous #1
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Re: Calling a woman "sexy", "babe", or a nickname [Re: fbi365]
#15446051 - 11/30/11 07:07 PM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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Quote:
fbi365 said:
It really depends on the girl. Some girls like it when used correctly, but some girls are uncomfortable with getting compliments. I know a girl (with whom I am intimate), who gets all weird when I tell her is gorgeous, or perfect, hot, a babe, sexy, or anything like that. Its really annoying because it makes flirting difficult, plus, sometimes I just like to say nice things to girls I like.
In terms of using this with girls you just meet, or are acquainted with. I have seen it work great when used by the right kind of guy. If you're that guy, go for it. If its overused, personally, I think its kind of sleazy, douchy, cheap, and pretty lame.
Another good point, don't overly saturate it. Drop it here and there.
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Re: Calling a woman "sexy", "babe", or a nickname [Re: Anonymous #1]
#15447558 - 12/01/11 12:41 AM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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I do not like most pet names, especially "sexy" and "babe". But I am in the minority of most things.
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Re: Calling a woman "sexy", "babe", or a nickname [Re: CureCat]
#15448253 - 12/01/11 04:56 AM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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"thanks, babe"
:goldenticket:
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Anonymous #1
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Re: Calling a woman "sexy", "babe", or a nickname [Re: Black_Sunset]
#15449946 - 12/01/11 04:57 PM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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Black_Sunset said:
"thanks, babe"
:goldenticket:
Hahaha.
For real though guys! For those of you uncomfortable with the idea, this is a GREAT way to get it started. It will give you that slight bit of confidence that you actually called a woman you are interested in "babe" and it will distinguish you from showing only intent to be in her friend zone.
Furthermore, it will make it easier to slip the word "babe" more in, in the future, should the above elicit no response or a positive response (negative response, you know where to go with that one... NEXT).
Sexy is harder to use, but more powerful and fun once you realize the right moment to use it.
For me, a good easy real world example for those having trouble psychologically crossing that barrier...
A girl is dressed up for a party (doesnt have to be super dressed up, but you know women, they like to look good when they go out).
Don't just come out and say, "Damn, you sexy" (That's creeperish, expected, and probably pretty common for them).
Here are some examples from what I can remember of me using sexy...
At a gathering when getting a drink, "and what would you like, sexy?"
"Well sexy, I dont know about you, but I'm thinking of switching bars" (if you are bar hopping).
Doesnt in the least have to be alcohol inclined, here are some non alcohol related "sexy"s.
A text... "So what are your plans tonight, sexy?" (usually if you've already met them a couple times, they enjoy your company, and you can make them laugh).
If, in a conversation, they mention something that sounds sexy, its sometimes nice to say, "Damn, alright, that's just sexy" and laugh. Its often actually not that hard to slip in. Once you find enough situations where you can and have successfully used babe, or sexy, then you can start sing them in better ways...
Everyone likes a "good morning, sexy, hope you have a nice day"
Hell, even I like those, and I'm a guy and get them from girls!
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Re: Calling a woman "sexy", "babe", or a nickname [Re: Anonymous #1]
#15450098 - 12/01/11 05:30 PM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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anon #1 you are like one of those dream weaver from inception, implanting sexy thoughts into the minds of vulnerable women hahaha
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Re: Calling a woman "sexy", "babe", or a nickname [Re: Black_Sunset]
#15450451 - 12/01/11 06:41 PM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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Black_Sunset said:
anon #1 you are like one of those dream weaver from inception, implanting sexy thoughts into the minds of vulnerable women hahaha
Lmao!
I would really like to have a woman chime in on this here... and by the way, women, I am not making any attempt to degrade you or anything. See, just for the longest time, I had trouble socially interacting with women and I felt there was some barrier that always put me in the friend zone.
And then I just found something that worked for me, that got me out of that "automatic friend zone" position with women.
Now I do it with almost every woman I meet. Its quite fun! Its become less of a "man, I gotta find that one woman that will actually not friend zone me" and more of a "Alright... shit... I've actually got multiple women actually calling me, legitimately wanting to do something with me tonight."
Shit today, I was getting texts from two girls while hanging out with a third!
All because I am using "sexy" and "babe" in the right moments... Its incredible. This social experiment has turned out some hilarious results, and its good to know for the future. I wanted to take my findings and bring it here to the shroomery relationship forum, where I know a lot of guys suffer with the same problem of the auto friend zone effect that many women seem to put on some of us.
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Anonymous #1
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Re: Calling a woman "sexy", "babe", or a nickname [Re: Anonymous #1]
#15450473 - 12/01/11 06:44 PM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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I think to sum it up...
To allow yourself to be attractive to women who like your qualities, you need two things...
1) to show attraction to them
2) to do it in a way that is not creepy, overly used, or weird.
A lot of people have trouble with 1, and since they have so much trouble with 1, when they finally do show attraction, it is forced, creepy, overly used, and weird.
I am just trying to help people with 1 and 2 here. This won't "turn a woman on, make her hump your leg, and give you the golden ticket to all women."
This will just allow you to be attractive to women who are also attracted to your other qualities. Its very possible many of you are missing out on women who would otherwise be attracted to you because you are not showing interest, or you are showing interest in the very wrong way.
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Re: Calling a woman "sexy", "babe", or a nickname [Re: CureCat]
#15450600 - 12/01/11 07:07 PM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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Quote:
Anonymous said:
I would really like to have a woman chime in on this here...
I did.
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Anonymous #1
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Re: Calling a woman "sexy", "babe", or a nickname [Re: CureCat]
#15450627 - 12/01/11 07:14 PM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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CureCat said:
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Anonymous said:
I would really like to have a woman chime in on this here...
I did.
Do you think its because guys are creepy when they say it, awkward, and degrading?
Or do you not like it in any instance whatsoever?
Look at some of the examples I posted. Fairly benign, right? Just a small token way for a guy to show interest without being way, overly forward.
I know you mention you are in the minority of most women (and when used right, apparently for me, from what I'm discovering, it IS effective), but your input still counts.
How would you like a guy to hint interest?
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Re: Calling a woman "sexy", "babe", or a nickname [Re: CureCat]
#15450681 - 12/01/11 07:26 PM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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Alright, in all honesty, your examples come of as extremely douchey to me. But most "normal" guys that hit on me come off to me as total blow hards, so I will not pretend to represent any majority of women. Also, I don't know why, but some pet names sounds worse to me than others, and the two that have worked the best for you are two of my least favourite. Especially since I really don't personally relate to either label. I am not questioning whether your tactics "work" for you or other people, I'm just offering my opinion.
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Re: Calling a woman "sexy", "babe", or a nickname [Re: CureCat]
#15450781 - 12/01/11 07:47 PM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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CureCat said:
Alright, in all honesty, your examples come of as extremely douchey to me. But most "normal" guys that hit on me come off to me as total blow hards, so I will not pretend to represent any majority of women. Also, I don't know why, but some pet names sounds worse to me than others, and the two that have worked the best for you are two of my least favourite. Especially since I really don't personally relate to either label. I am not questioning whether your tactics "work" for you or other people, I'm just offering my opinion.
No, no, its cool... and I promise, if you were to hear it in my regular flow of conversation, you probably wouldn't even blink twice at it (and if you did, that would probably mean you didn't find me attractive to begin with), and thus I'd get a good gauge at how you felt. But if you were attracted to qualities I possess, and slipped something very small like that in, you don't think you'd at least be glad that someone you are attracted to is showing you a small signal that they are attracted back?
And if so, what do you feel are better ways to show signals that they are attracted back?
We're talking VERY early on here, you know, not people you've known for years or anything.
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Re: Calling a woman "sexy", "babe", or a nickname [Re: Anonymous #1]
#15451513 - 12/01/11 09:51 PM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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Shawty, shawty shawtayyy
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Re: Calling a woman "sexy", "babe", or a nickname [Re: Mr. Bojangles]
#15453459 - 12/02/11 09:44 AM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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Yay for pet names! When in a relationship, i make it known early on that i really like to be called snugglepuff on occasion. Not too often and i certainly do'nt push the matter, but a snugglepuff or other cutesy name here and there makes me feel all cozy inside. Fitting i guess since i love to snuggle and it's my favorite word. But since snuggles is the name of my seal blankie, the -puff is a cute alternative.
As for the partner, i'll only opt for pet names should he desire them. If such is the case, i'll come up with a individual pet name for him and throw in a standard "honey" or "babe" or somesuch here and there. And he is of course obliged to do the same as long as i get the occasional snugglepuff.
But alas, some guys(i know that the title directs towards female reactions, so sorry for breaking the flow with the purely penile perspective) just are'nt into it which makes me a disappointed panda, but not quite a sad panda since in all honesty it's not a huge concern. Negative reactions early in flirtations are mentioned in the OP. In this case, jestful names such as sport are less likely to creep out the flirtee than relationship oriented names such as babe. The introduction of ones with sexual connotations like tiger or sexy are dependent on the temperament of the flirtee in question.
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