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 muirileD
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 How to convince loved ones to start meditating? 
#14362484 - 04/27/11 07:26 PM (2 years, 27 days ago) |
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So recently over the past few months, I've gotten really into meditation. It's something I now do daily, sometimes even 2-3 times a day. I've found that my mental health has improved tremendously over this time. I suffer from much less anxiety daily, I'm more focused, rarely depressed any more, and my psychedelic experiences have been much more enjoyable and less "dark" (all things I struggled with for a few months at the end of 2010).
This however isn't about me. I've been with this girl for the past 10 months or so (we were very close friends for a while before this), and I'm madly in love with her. I know very well she feels the same way. The problem however, is that she is in the same boat I was in a few months ago. Anxiety, depression, low self esteem, frequent negative psychedelic experiences, etc.
I've gotten her to open up to me, which I feel has helped her a lot. The thing is though she'll share her frustrations or fears with me and I try and help, but most of the time the solutions to the problems she has are internal. Which is wehre meditation comes in. I want to try and get her into meditating, as I feel it would greatly benefit her. I've told her how positively meditation has impacted my life, especially in regards to my mental health. I've also shared how simple it is to do daily. I know she listens every time, but I just don't think she's interested in it.
I don't want to force her or pressure her into doing it, as it needs to be a decision she needs to make on her own, all I can do is share how great it's been for me.
I'm just wonder how I might be able to convince her more so on doing this. I'm hoping that her hearing how great it has been for me multiple times helps, but at the same time I feel I might be sounding repetitive and pushy almost. I really just want her to be happy.
Any advice or insight would be greatly appreciated! 
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 teknix
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 Re: How to convince loved ones to start meditating? [Re: muirileD]
#14362499 - 04/27/11 07:29 PM (2 years, 27 days ago) |
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I wouldn't be pushy about it. Just lead by action. If she decide to do it than good for her!
I am sure there will be instances to come up that you can ever so casually bring it up. Just be patient 
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Re: How to convince loved ones to start meditating? [Re: teknix]
#14362594 - 04/27/11 07:48 PM (2 years, 27 days ago) |
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Meditation can be any conscious act. Try to use dance as a way to open your girlfriend up to meditation. Not grinding and bumping, but just dancing, feeling the music, being in the moment of the rhythm - its an ancient tribal ritual. I used to spend many hours a day meditating outside and in my room, completely alone - this is not for everybody. I now find meditation and meditative acts in everything I do - especially dancing. Try going to some shows, festivals, or concerts and just dance and encourage your girlfriend to do the same. Don't think. Just dance. This practice has worked for me and is now my main form of meditation - daily breathing activities aside. There is no "correct" way to meditate, its about finding what works for you. If you're interested, check out Osho's Book of Secrets, in it he discusses the 112 ways to meditate as practiced by followers of Tantra. For me, this book was very beneficial. 
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muirileD
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Re: How to convince loved ones to start meditating? [Re: PsillySighBen]
#14362748 - 04/27/11 08:14 PM (2 years, 27 days ago) |
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Oh we dance quite frequently! Both of us love hitting up as many shows and festivals as we can. We're typically the people off the the side of the stage outside of the main crowd completely into our own grooves. It's one of the biggest things we have in common 
I do view that very much so as meditation, but it's typically an infrequent release of negative energy as you can't really go to shows all the time.
I was talking more along the line of daily breathing exercises but oh boy did you just get me in the mood to dance!
Festival season is near!  
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Re: How to convince loved ones to start meditating? [Re: muirileD]
#14363104 - 04/27/11 09:26 PM (2 years, 27 days ago) |
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I don't want to force her or pressure her into doing it, as it needs to be a decision she needs to make on her own, all I can do is share how great it's been for me.
End of story. I've found you can't force stuff onto other people. Everyone is at their own stage of development and will come to the right place when they are ready. Just keep doing your thang and it can't not rub off on those around you.
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Re: How to convince loved ones to start meditating? [Re: muirileD]
#14363127 - 04/27/11 09:31 PM (2 years, 27 days ago) |
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Try going to a seminar in your area.Look in your local newspaper there are often groups in your town or city that are open to the public that offer everything from yoga and tai chi to Transcendental Meditation.
Then understand that because it is so personal some people will not enjoy as much as others... Also if you are going through such changes in your outlook on life be aware that this can also change her, and not always in the way you would want...
Be sure that the woman you want is not already the woman you have.
if she becomes enlightened as to the nature of the buddha she will understand she needs nothing, especially you!! lol
I have trained for more years than I have known my wife or been married and have not found a reason yet to take her to the park with me. I have also lost some close friends because of their total lack of respect for this kind of art...
these are good questions you are asking and do not be too hasty at coming to any conclusions.
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Re: How to convince loved ones to start meditating? [Re: c0sm0nautt]
#14363143 - 04/27/11 09:35 PM (2 years, 27 days ago) |
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c0sm0nautt said:
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I don't want to force her or pressure her into doing it, as it needs to be a decision she needs to make on her own, all I can do is share how great it's been for me.
End of story. I've found you can't force stuff onto other people. Everyone is at their own stage of development and will come to the right place when they are ready. Just keep doing your thang and it can't not rub off on those around you.
cOsmOnautt ftw!!
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Just keep doing your thang and it can't not rub off on those around you.
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Sir Arthur Stanley Eddington
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bigmike7104
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show her this- http://www.ineedmotivation.com/blog/2008/05/100-benefits-of-meditation/
also you can show her some studies that have proven the it's positive impact on mental health.
she might be having a hard time motivating herself to get in the habit of doing it, especially with mental issues. ask her to sit down with you and do it just for a minute and see what she says
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Re: How to convince loved ones to start meditating? [Re: muirileD]
#14366857 - 04/28/11 03:06 PM (2 years, 27 days ago) |
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I believe asking a question can do more good than expounding your proof of value.
Ask her the right questions, and if meditation resonates within her own mind, she will follow. Tell her how she must do it, and her ego will immediately judge it within your prescribed constraints.
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