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 Re: My Girl left me...  [Re: Raw]
#13350513 - 10/18/10 01:24 AM (2 years, 7 months ago) |
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my girlfriend of 3 years did the same thing. she was striving for attention and depressed so she found some other guy that treated her like a queen and left me for him. she lied about it tho. she repeatedly told me there was no one and she just wanted to be alone and figure some shit out and be with her friends. even telling me that we would get back together and get married in the future, but i found out from a friend that she already had a BOYFRIEND and she was fucking him. this crushed me. we had lost our virginities together so for that bond to be ruined hurt worse than the breakup, which i already though was terrible. i felt disgusted thinking about her fucking this other guy. i didn't eat for 5 days straight and fell back into my opiate addiction.
the only thing that helped was that i met a girl a few weeks later who i really liked and liked me back as well. after we had sex the first time, it was like a weight off my shoulder. i felt happy that some girl was into me again.
what you need to do is move on. even after both of us being with ppl that we liked, we still ended up talking it out and getting back together. you may actually find someone better tho, you never know but it wont hurt to try it out. she wont like you moving on either so itl bring her back. trust and believe. my girl didnt expect me to move on that quick so she came running back.
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Re: My Girl left me... [Re: Raw]
#13350527 - 10/18/10 01:28 AM (2 years, 7 months ago) |
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ha she really is not with anyone else...she just moved here and only has one close friend...stays at her grandmas all day...sometimes visits her sister...she doesnt have some secret guy that i dont know...
i am not even worried about it tho bc yeah i have actually had a good weekend and i am just fine hanging with my friends and going to school. i care enough about her to just let her go and let her get her life together the way she wants to. i havent talked to her in 4 days now...i know she will get ahold of me again eventually tho.
she called my mom today and wanted to just hang out with my mom...well they did and my mom tells me she asked how i was and what i was doing and if i was ok....she then said she was just scared that her life was going nowhere and that she hates not having a job or a car or a place to live...she wants to start school and get a job and she thinks she will feel much better about her life....my mom is taking her to sign up for school this wednesday...she said she hates doing this to me but she needs to get her life together before we can date...she said she thinks about me everyday.
so yeah i bet once she is in classes next semester and seeing a therapist she will feel a lot better and who knows what could happen. i definitely am crazy about this crazy girl but i will let her do whatever she wants....we both care about each other a lot and life will do whatever needs to be done..
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if you love her then never give up. it sounds to me that she is depressed and doesnt know what to do. she feels like something in her life needs to change but shes not sure what so she freaked out and over reacted. these things happen and it will just bring you guys closer together in the end. good luck to you. i really hope you can work it out. a life without love is not a life i want to even think about. a broken heart feels just as bad as any withdrawal ive ever felt.
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yeah man i am def thinking that if i show her i am moving on and doing well she will freak out and come running...
she actually had a fight with her best friend the other day and that is like the only person in the world she has right now other than her sisters who live far away and her gma...i was glad they fought bc it really made her realize that she doesnt have anybody to just be with her and be nice to her when she doesnt have her stupid best friend....
that is why she called my mom...she wanted to reach out to someone...if that someone was my mom then to me it seems she really does think that being a part of my family is a good idea.
im not worried about it being some other guy tho for real...even if it is i would still feel the same bc i know she would know i would treat her so much better than some random dude to fuck...she really is not that type of girl tho...plus i knowwww she misses my dick...i used to drive her fucking wild in bed...i seriously fucked this girl so well haha...she would always fall asleep on my chest after man i loved that.
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no doubt man i have been thinking the same....this is way worse than WD...
and no i wont just give up on her...i have let her know how much i care a million times and she knows exactly where i stand.....and idc how long it takes for her to figure shit out i will always be there for her no matter what....my family will always be there for her...she knows it too...i agree wtih your last post and think that once she is in school and has a job next semester she will def want to let our relationship have another chance to really grow and be even better than before.
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true. not trying to brag but ive gotten every girl ive been with the wettest theve ever been but after 3 years you get stuck in your routines and get bored so she was looking for something different, and she definatly didnt seem like the kind of girl to do that. it took almost 6 months for me to sleep with her but only 3 days for this new guy and ppl were convincing me that she was a good girl that wouldnt do something like that. i just dont want you getting more hurt than you need to. thinking that shes is with someone else and actually knowing it are two different things. its sickening to think about her with some other guy like that. i love her so much and never wanted to be without her. i cant be at terms with her having sex with anyone else. i actually threw up and started violently shaking when i heard the news. thats how bad i was.
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yeah man i cant imagine...
if that happened to me i would go out and fuck a girl right away.
i am actually pretty confident that i could get laid if i tried to...some girls at school and some old friends i could call...think itd be easy...
i dont want to tho...at least not right now. i am just hanging with friends and trying to think about her less.
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DoseInTheWoods3420
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i didnt think anybody though i was attractive or cool but right when i was single, i got laid. plus ive gotten about 10 numbers in the past 2 months, plus worked out a threesome, and got the best head of my life from another girl. its been a fun time but i love that girl too much. id give all this up to be back with her.
getting with another girl will definatly take you mind away from your ex. plus its fun to be flirting and getting with chicks. enjoy the single life while you can cause if you do work it back out, your gonna wish you took the chance to have some fun while you had it
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idk i think id feel bad if i told her i had slept with someone else....
even tho i am single..
i might try it and see, but it would definitely just be for fun.
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im starting a bad ass workout tomorrow too....i am already in pretty good shape, but i used to lift weights a lot more in high school and i havent really done that for the last 4 years or so....
i am changing my diet, lifting weights 4 days a week, growin my hair out, and picking out a bunch of new clothes..
im definitely gonna feel good about myself.
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yeah man i am def thinking that if i show her i am moving on and doing well she will freak out and come running...
This is gonna sound harsh, but you need to get some more self-respect. You shouldn't be pining after this girl or even still wanting her after the way she's behaved--AT ALL. You shouldn't have to act like you don't want someone to get them interested in you. Somebody who's worth your time will want you no matter what, without playing little ignore games with them.
Besides that, I'm going to chime in with what everyone else has said: Either she cheated on you during that week, or she met someone else that she wanted to explore things with. Girls, especially immature ones like this girl, are codependent as hell and will not typically end a stable relationship without having already found some greener grass.
This girl should be dead to you, permanently.
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I have to agree to a large extent. This girl sounds way too unstable to stress out about anymore. I doubt getting a job and/or going to school with even hit the tip of the iceberg of problems this girl seems to retain. She seems desperate to keep some level of attachment to you... particularly that she wants to continuously associate with your mother.
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Re: My Girl left me... [Re: Society]
#13366790 - 10/21/10 04:11 PM (2 years, 7 months ago) |
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DoseInTheWoods3420 said:
my girlfriend of 3 years did the same thing. she was striving for attention and depressed so she found some other guy that treated her like a queen and left me for him. she lied about it tho. she repeatedly told me there was no one and she just wanted to be alone and figure some shit out and be with her friends. even telling me that we would get back together and get married in the future, but i found out from a friend that she already had a BOYFRIEND and she was fucking him. this crushed me. we had lost our virginities together so for that bond to be ruined hurt worse than the breakup, which i already though was terrible. i felt disgusted thinking about her fucking this other guy. i didn't eat for 5 days straight and fell back into my opiate addiction.
the only thing that helped was that i met a girl a few weeks later who i really liked and liked me back as well. after we had sex the first time, it was like a weight off my shoulder. i felt happy that some girl was into me again.
what you need to do is move on. even after both of us being with ppl that we liked, we still ended up talking it out and getting back together. you may actually find someone better tho, you never know but it wont hurt to try it out. she wont like you moving on either so itl bring her back. trust and believe. my girl didnt expect me to move on that quick so she came running back.
but why do you want to get back with her so bad? she seems confused. do you think she's really able to understand and appreciate you for who you really are? the truly deep, kind hearted person i know
i just think you deserve more than this.
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Re: My Girl left me... [Re: Society]
#13394681 - 10/27/10 01:06 PM (2 years, 7 months ago) |
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I have to agree to a large extent. This girl sounds way too unstable to stress out about anymore. I doubt getting a job and/or going to school with even hit the tip of the iceberg of problems this girl seems to retain. She seems desperate to keep some level of attachment to you... particularly that she wants to continuously associate with your mother.
yeah man its weird.
and it has been about a month and id know if there was some other guy by now...she really is just completely fucked up in the head....talked to her a few days ago and she kept calling me this little pet name she used to call me...and said she was so happy that i was being nice to her....
she def wants some kind of attachment to me bc i guess she is getting with my mom today...she says she wants to be on her own and do things for herself yet any time she wants to do something she calls my mom to come help her....had my mom take her to the community college here to help her sign up, goes out with my mom to eat bc she just wants to talk, and today she wants my mom to help her fill out her FASFA for finacial aid next semester.
her facebook status is always something like "boy you know id do anything to get to you"...WTF?
im just leaving her alone still tho....its like impossible to not think about her all the time tho...i mean when we got together she said she was so tired of being mistreated and had so many bad boyfriends and she always said she couldnt believe how great i was and how sweet and amazing i was and that was all she ever wanted...now she just woke up one day and doesnt want that anymore?...ha i doubt it...she is just wayyyyyy lost in her head and it kills me bc i did this same thing to so many people when i was a drug addict and now i know what it feels like to want to help someone yet you just arent able to.
last time she saw me she was BALLING...it was the first time her emotions have come out since she broke up. she told my mom that she wants to push all her feelings away bc she cant stand to feel them...but i got to her good last time we saw eachother...
idk im sorry i keep being such a baby in here...i just feel better to type this shit out.
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i keep expecting her to just come over and jump on me the way she talks to my mom sometimes...
my mom is always saying that she asks about me and hopes i am not hurting myself and that she cant believe that someone like me could ever care about her....
told my mom a few days ago that i am the most beautiful boy she knows...and that she knows how i feel and she is so mad at herself for breaking my heart but that she thinks she just cant deal with a serious relationship right now bc her life is so stuck and dull and going nowhere...
one of her ex boyfriends hit me up and told me to stay away from her bc she is a whack job...idk everyone keeps telling me that, but i love this person...idc if she is a whackjob bc that doesnt mean that we didnt have an amazing connection from the first time we saw eachother...doesnt mean i dont want to see her get better and feel happy and worth it and loved.
idk i just have a feeling that this is not all over yet...
i cant take it forever tho..
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Bro I found out that my wife of 7 years love part was really fucking big one fucking day. I dont even want to start. Too fresh.
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Re: My Girl left me... [Re: Isaacav3]
#13421872 - 11/02/10 05:47 AM (2 years, 7 months ago) |
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Something about the fall months that make women go nuts dude. Im going through that whole "i need a brake, get my life on track" thing and getting my heart jerked around. It's I love you one day, ignore you the next, then its I hate you. Rinse and repeat.
Sounds like you could get her back no problem. If she is still talking about you like that she doesn't want to be over with you.
I know this sounds weird but IMO women treat a relationship like a game, And do shit like this to feel like there in power.
Gl to you man.
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