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 i miss my friend
#8603258 - 07/07/08 06:37 AM (4 months, 27 days ago) |
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I grew up with a friend from about the age of 3 (our parents initial just put us together). Just about every day I think we would both ask our moms "can ___ come over?" and so we would spend the time just hanging out. Actually when I was very young I remember that I didn't like him because he was too rough, but eventually we became mutual best friends. We just enjoyed simple things together, spending countless hours roaming through his backyard woods swinging from vines and wading through the ravine, playing with toys, wrestling and watching tv.
Things changed a lot; he always went to a different school but when he transferred to my school I found out he was too "cool" to hang out with me. That eventually changed and that year I had a great time hanging out with my best friend and all my others.
However I came to realize that he was better than me. He was nobler; when I often cried he was always comforting, while when he seldom cried I just felt akward. He could say nice things; I couldn't. He was also stronger and better at most activities than me. So I began to become more and more competitive, always trying to one-up him. The one thing I might have had on him was intelligence so I became very argumentative and condescending. I still liked him just as much, I was just jealous and probably a little bored with him as well from familiarity.
Gradually I noticed that I would call him more often while he would call me less. He would always hang out when I called but eventually I knew he was just doing it out of obligation; he never called me.
The last time I seriously spent time with him was when we counseled a camp together before college. That was great to see him and be around him again, and we began to grow a bit closer again. Then we went off to college and I haven't talked to him since, except when I ran into him at a party back home and he quickly went outside to smoke a cigarette.
Since the start of college he has lost both a father and a close girlfriend to fatal accidents. I feel horrible. I sent a stupid generic sympathy letter when his dad died and I'm sure that was just a kick in the pants.
Anyway, I miss him. He enters my dreams quite often - he was like a brother. I wish I could talk to him but honestly I would just feel like a jerk if I sent him a facebook message (my only line of contact)
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what did you cry about?
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maybe i made it sound like a common day occurrence - it wasn't. just kid stuff - once in a while, maybe after losing a fight, not getting to go on a trip, falling in the mud - not real significant stuff
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isaacein
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I say show him this post, title included.
I've had a very close childhood friend walk away also, for similar reasons. Once we had grown up, we talked about it seriously, and we're friends again today.
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 Re: i miss my friend [Re: isaacein]
#8606620 - 07/07/08 11:47 PM (4 months, 26 days ago) |
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contact him on facebook.
do it.
as hard as it sounds, are you going to go through life kicking yourself in the ass saying "i should've messaged my friend". or perhaps you will be debating it every day of your life?
why not? what's there to lose?
if anything just a simple hey man, how are things going? i've been a bit nostalgic for the past few days and thought about our childhood memories. etc etc etc...
DO IT!!!
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Re: i miss my friend [Re: imagine]
#8612352 - 07/09/08 10:14 AM (4 months, 24 days ago) |
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DO IT.
Don't be fazed by the taboo that seems to exist over people using facebook/msn/whatever to contact friends. Your feelings don't change just because you are typing them down instead of saying them face to face.
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sounds like you should trip together.
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 Re: i miss my friend [Re: sleepy]
#8622971 - 07/11/08 06:17 PM (4 months, 22 days ago) |
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sleepy said:
sounds like you should trip together.
yes!
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Re: i miss my friend [Re: cateyes]
#8623229 - 07/11/08 07:40 PM (4 months, 22 days ago) |
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Did you contact him?
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Re: i miss my friend [Re: sunflower]
#8623306 - 07/11/08 08:03 PM (4 months, 22 days ago) |
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I went through a similar situation, but we parted ways much earlier in life (I ditched his 'friendship' my sophomore year in high school). I guess it's different for me because he never seemed to appreciate our friendship anyway. I catch him in my dreams every now and than as well.
I am sure you are really just missing the memories you had together ... would you two really be able to get along now? I'd honestly just contact him and ask him how he has been and to let him know that if he ever wants to 'vent' to someone you'd be more than happy to be the 'ventee'. Or just see if he wants to catch up. If he isn't interested there isn't much you can do ... just enjoy the memories you had together and utilize what you learned from that relationship to develop closer ones with other people.
Maybe what you're missing is a close friend? I don't have any close friends now that were in my childhood (a childhood friend), but I still feel like my close friends would know what my childhood was like just by knowing me now.
peace and gl
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Re: i miss my friend [Re: sunflower]
#8631009 - 07/13/08 08:09 PM (4 months, 20 days ago) |
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Quote:
sunflower said:
Did you contact him?
still thinking about it, what to say and procrastinating
i haven't missed him so much lately, just a couple dreams he was in hit me pretty hard.
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I would love to hear from an old friend. I bet he will too.
Just ask him what he is doing these days, something to get the ball rolling.
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Re: i miss my friend [Re: sunflower]
#8631498 - 07/13/08 09:47 PM (4 months, 20 days ago) |
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my philosophy with anything in life is: if you are thinking that much about "anything" just go for it, because it obviously means a lot to you, and you won't have peace until you take care of it.
just go for it, what do you have to lose?
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Re: i miss my friend [Re: Syle]
#8642457 - 07/16/08 12:43 PM (4 months, 17 days ago) |
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I know how you feel. It's really hard sparking up a convo with an old friend when they've changed so much. It's just random and weird and you have nothing in common anymore. Or maybe you never did in the first place. Oh well, have a go at it and good luck.
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