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 Orgasming too fast
#8395677 - 05/13/08 07:48 AM (6 months, 19 days ago) |
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This has been causing me much stress, the gf says that it's alright, but it has been taking a toll on my well being.
I would rather be alone for the rest of my life than deal with this everyday.
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I would rather be alone for the rest of my life than deal with this everyday.
Wyhy do you consider these two as the only options? 
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Sex is an important part of relationships.
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creekfreek
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Try some numbing cream, they sell it in adult book stores and it is suppose to make you last longer.
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Re: Orgasming too fast [Re: creekfreek]
#8396022 - 05/13/08 10:02 AM (6 months, 19 days ago) |
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There are a lot of solutions to this problem... It happens to many, many men. The numbing cream can be a good option, but it can have an adverse affect of slowing down your girl's response, which can really suck. Your girl can be the solution to the problem. Try spending more time in foreplay, sucking and stroking and such, teasing you and not letting you achieve climax until it is the right time. 
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Yeah what she said^^^^
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I recommend that you learn to control your PC muscles. Here's a decent site with exercises and information about PC control:
http://www.penisamp.com/stop-premature-ejaculation
Also, familiarize yourself with your ejaculatory response (sometimes known as the "point of no return") during masturbation. If you can train yourself to relax and breathe deeply when you sense the point of no return is approaching, you can delay ejaculation.
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Re: Orgasming too fast [Re: Veritas]
#8396217 - 05/13/08 10:58 AM (6 months, 19 days ago) |
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Veritas said:familiarize yourself with your ejaculatory response (sometimes known as the "point of no return") during masturbation. If you can train yourself to relax and breathe deeply when you sense the point of no return is approaching, you can delay ejaculation.
This is good advice.
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Re: Orgasming too fast [Re: Anno]
#8396221 - 05/13/08 11:00 AM (6 months, 19 days ago) |
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i agree with everything that you guys have said, and would like to add one thing.
i know sex isnt planned usually in advance but prior to fucking you should go squeeze one off so you can last longer. this is the method i use anyways...
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Re: Orgasming too fast [Re: Veritas]
#8396365 - 05/13/08 11:39 AM (6 months, 19 days ago) |
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Start flexing your PC muscle little by little. You need to go slowly. You're going to go from ground zero to fully-flexed over a period of 3 minutes. At the 2 minute mark (or sooner), you'll probably feel that your PC muscle is already totally flexed.
It's not. Your mind is playing a trick on you. Keep flexing.
After 3 minutes, your PC muscle is going to feel as if it's on fire. It's a burning sensation. Every part of you wants to release it. Don't. Hold that contraction for 30 seconds. Feel the burn. Hold it.
After 30 seconds have passed, you're going to flex your PC muscle even more. You can do it even if you think you can't.
When your body is screaming to ease up, release your PC muscle and do 20 quick PC squeezes (see Level 2 Exercise #1).
You're going to go through this process once per day. Have a towel ready to wipe the sweat from your brow. You're going to need it.
I'm going to start doing these, I'm definitely not a level 3 PCer yet. 
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~ R.W. Emerson, "Spiritual Laws"
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Veritas
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Strong PC muscles with a high degree of voluntary control are k3y to great sex for both men and women, as well as decreased likelihood of incontinence when elderly.
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Re: Orgasming too fast [Re: Veritas]
#8396904 - 05/13/08 02:02 PM (6 months, 19 days ago) |
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Try focusing on the idea that you are equal with the person you are having sex with...equal in all respects, in resepcts to what you have to offer each other.
Actually the main reason why we as men cum so quickly has alot to do with how we relate to women, in any respect...ie.
Women are thought of to be the givers when it comes to sex..and although it may seem to be true, because you see it all around you, on TV and in porno's, let it be know that it simply has to do with the way you think about women.
Generally women in our culture are thought of to be the ones who offer sex; this is the main reason a girl is known as a slut and thus seems like a slut when she has sex with alot of guys, whereas guys are looked at as players...something with a more positive approval than slut.
Thats how i stopped coming to quickly. The PC thing doesnt work and only goes so far, the real solution lies in excitement and the degree to that excitement. Ie. If you notice that the person who is supposedly giving you sex, is getting excited to you notice that you are actaully giving her what she gives you and thus excites you beyond the point that you seek to be excited, and ejaculate to soon. Girls have a hard time because of this as well, since they want to orgasm yet they know that they are giving you sex, they dont become very excited easily...its all about what you know, basically.
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And remember the computer does not appear to respond to words of anger and frustration - just give it input, in the form of new meanings that you know to be true and its messages to you and the limits it lays out for you, will change.
Guilt is an outcome of believing you are the cause of the problems.
Yet, we are not a cause to something, we see is negative or bad - Unless you believe your intentions are directed towards a bad outcome....
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Re: Orgasming too fast [Re: creekfreek]
#8396934 - 05/13/08 02:09 PM (6 months, 19 days ago) |
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Wouldn't numbing lube numb her too? I don't see how what works.
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Veritas
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"The PC thing doesnt work"
...for you. I agree that the sexual experience occurs more between the ears than between the legs, but this does not mean that physical conditioning is worthless. It may be that you did not practice kegels long enough to notice a difference, or that you were not properly isolating your PC muscles. Either way, telling someone that developing greater PC strength and control "doesn't work" is putting forth your opinion as fact.
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Re: Orgasming too fast [Re: Veritas]
#8397161 - 05/13/08 03:00 PM (6 months, 19 days ago) |
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I will go and collect hard data in the field and report back
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~ R.W. Emerson, "Spiritual Laws"
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Veritas
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Hard data, hm? You'd better PM it to me first so I can review your methodology. 
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Re: Orgasming too fast [Re: Veritas]
#8397277 - 05/13/08 03:23 PM (6 months, 19 days ago) |
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I will send diagrams/photos
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"My children," said an old man to his boys scared by a figure in the dark entry, "my children, you will never see any thing worse than yourselves." As in dreams, so in the scarcely less fluid events of the world, every man sees himself as colossal, without knowing that it is himself. The good, compared to the evil which he sees, is as his own good to his own evil.
~ R.W. Emerson, "Spiritual Laws"
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Veritas
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Don't forget the detailed, first-person descriptions of your experiments. 
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Re: Orgasming too fast [Re: Veritas]
#8397897 - 05/13/08 06:30 PM (6 months, 19 days ago) |
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I thought i had a problem back in the day. I understand the stress and embarrassment.
Then one day I foudn out that some guys were way worse off than me, like coming just from getting their penis touched or literally two pumps.
Are you completely spent after your first go round? my only saving grace at the time was that I can go as many times as needed really. so my advice is to try and give yourself 5 minutes in between and spend that time going down and doing general foreplay.
I never understood this "come and done" mentality. after getting more confidence in my stamina, i started getting more primary stamina.
another trick is that I find I cant come if I have to urinate. Usually my morning sex is under 5 minutes, but if I dont go pee, I basically cant come, but have that morning wood that is harder than chinese arithmatic.
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I remember seeing a thread in here that had a link to an all-inclusive guide to prlonged sex.
The OP had multiple methods listed with pages of information. I'll run a search tomorrow (bout to go to bed) and see if i can find it, i'm sure it could help out this original poster
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